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good morning. breaking news. a stunning announcement this morning. president barack obama wins this year s noble peace prize. [ speaking foreign language ] we ll get reaction in a live report from the whithouse. dangerous deluge. heavy rains washing out roads and leading to water rescues in the midwest, and this morning, that slow-moving storm could dump another six inches on parts of the region. and impact. nasa set to dive-bomb the moon within the hour. right now, all systems are go and we ll bring it to you live as it happens today, friday, october 9th, 2009. captions paid for by nbc-universal television and good morning, everyone. welcome to today on a friday morning. i m matt lauer. and i m meredith vieira. and reporters who covered the noble peace prize announcement normally don t gasp in surprise, but they did this morning when president obama s name was announced. that s right. the president, according to administration officials, apparently humbled by the announcement. and why not? it s a rare feat. the only other u.s. presidents to win, teddy roosevelt, woodrow wilson and jimmy carter. and by the way, carter s win came more than two decades after he left the oval office. we re going to have much more on why the panel may have selected president obama, coming up in just a couple of minutes. and then also ahead, that other big story of the morning, nasa s explosive return to the moon. right now, two spacecraft are barreling towards the lunar surface with the first set to collide at 7:31 eastern time, the second just a few minutes later. apparently, the goal is this, to churn up debris from that first collision. it will confirm, hopefully maybe not that water is hidden below the moon s surface. the plume is expected to be about six miles high, large enough, by the way, to be seen through simple telescopes here on earth. we re going to have much more ahead and show it to you all live as it happens, which is pretty cool. very exciting. yeah. but we begin with that breaking news out of oslo, norway. president barack obama awarded the noble peace prize. chuck todd is our white house correspondent. suffice it to say, this was a big surprise. reporter: it was, meredith. even the white house, i think their first reaction, robert gibbs, was wow, the press secretary. they were surprised. they found out at about 5:10 this morning, basically the way we all found out, via a wire report that they recved out of the situation room that was monitoring all of these things. he becomes the third president to do this. and when you read the citation, it s clearly a decision by the noble committee to endorse the president s foreign policy. they talk about dialogue, the fact that he focuses on nuclear non-proliferation and calls him he is now the world s leading spokesman when it comes to these issues. and so, it really is an endorsement of what they think he might be able to do, rather than an award for anything that he has done. we don t know who nominated him. all of those details, we assume, we ll learn later. we don t know if the president will go and pick up the prize himself in oslo in december. and of course, what he would do with the prize money that comes with it, meredith. all right, chuck. as matt reported, the president apparently very humbled by receiving that prize. chuck todd, thank you very much. reporter: you got it. and for more, here s matt. meredith, thank you. nbc s david gregory is moderator of meet the press. david, good morning to you. good morning, matt. how about those gasps in the room? i mean, when the reporters were covering this, they gasped in shock. this is a surprise. we re less than a year into the first term of this president, and there are no i m not trying to be, you know, rude here no major foreign policy achievements to date. so, why did he win? well, i think as the citation points out, this is a lot more about tone than substantive accomplishment. in many years, this is a european body who is more left-leaning, certainly, and opposed to the administration of george w. bush. the bush administration came in, turning away from large, international alliances, seeking to do away with the antiballistic missile treaty with russia, doing away with the agreement over kyoto on international climate change, and here comes barack obama and he s got a much different outlook about international alliances, international organizations, about climate, about dialogue, even with your enemies. it s a complete change in tone, and that s what they appear to be validating. so, what you re saying in some ways and again, not to be rude here or sarcastic that in some ways, he wins this award for not being george w. bush. i mean, i think that s an inescapable conclusion about all of this. the irony they cite non-proliferation as a goal, willingness to have dialogue, to reengage in parts of the middle east. the obama administration so far is carrying out, in terms of non-proliferation, very similar strategy to what the bush administration did on iran and north korea so far. right. notable differences, a willingness to talk directly to the iranians, and in fact, there s a debate within the white house about whether to escalate in the war in afghanistan. and as a political matter, climate change i still something that even the administration says is not going to be something that can be accomplished this year. so, again, this appears to be tone over actual accomplishment here. well, let s talk politics, then. how is this likely to be treated by conservatives? is this a bit of a double-edged sword for the president? it s no secret the conservatives had opposed some of his foreign policy initiatives reaching out to iran, allowing former president clinton to go to north korea on that mission to free those u.s. journalists, even that early speech in egypt to the arab world. a lot of conservatives called it the obama apology tour. so, how are they going to deal with this? well, i think you can pick up the script from there. just like during the campaign, when the president campaigned overseas and a lot of conservatives thought that was odd and portrayed him as the international rock sta and that you can only get love for america if you apologize for america. obviously, the white house will make a different argument, that re-engagement with the world is a better path toward peace, particularly after the bush years. and of course, here we have the president on the world stage two weeks in a row. last week it was going to copenhagen trying to bring the olympic games here, and he gets rebuffed. this week he gets embraced by the international community for who he is, what he believes in, what he stands for in terms of being a man of peace. so, on the world stage, quite shocking. and again, i think his conservative critics will say, you know, a lot of sizzle here, but not a lot of accomplishment. right. and that s probably what will pick it up. and the bottom line is, it looks great on your mantle and resume, but doesn t help you get health care passes or help you solve the problem of afghanistan. i guarantee you, as honored and humbled as i m sure the president is by this award, he would much rather have the unemployment rate go down from 9.8% than this right now. all right. david gregory in washington this morning with surprising news out of europe. david, thanks very much. thank you. all right. once again, here s meredith. matt, thank you. now to the other big story of the morning, nasa s mission to bomb the surface of the moon. nbc s tom costello is in washington with more. tom, good morning to you. reporter: good morning. we re watching this right now. the impact time is 7:31, and slowly, we re watching the centaur rocket make its way to the moon. impact time, as we said, 7:31 eastern time. it s now traveling at about 3,500 miles per hour, and wcan tell you that when it hits, it s going to hit with such a force, they believe it will send a plume of debris rock, dust, and they re hoping, ice six miles high off of the surface of the moon. and then the second satellite will fly through that plume. this is a satellite called lcross. measuring all of these contaminants, if you will, or all of the debris that comes up, and then also televising all of this live so, this will be really exciting, because we now have a lot of evidence that the surface of the moon is literally just covered in hydrogen and probably oxygen, but is there water? is there ice buried underneath the surface of the moon? we re about to find out. they think this could be the most exciting piece of hard science off of the moon since astronauts left almost 40 years ago. all right. tom costello, thank you very much. we re going to bring you complete coverage as it happens in our next half hour. it s very exciting. it really is. think of the possibilities if they find water. no question. making much more efficient travel to the moon possible. exactly. let s get a check of the rest of the morning s headlines. ann s at the news desk with that. ann, good morning to you. good morning, matt and meredith. good morning, everybody. also new this morning, the government in pakistan is vowing to strike back after militants staged a massive bombing this morning in peshawar. at least 49 people were killed and 100 were wounded when a vehicle packed with explosives suddenly just blew up. in reaction, the pakistani army says it is prepared to launch a major offensive near the  afghanistan border. flooding and landslides in the philippines have killed at least 160 people and turned one province into what s being described as a big river. the flooding had people clinging to tree tops. in the united states, more flooding is possible today from texas to ohio. on thursday after six inches of rain fell on parts of missouri. overseas markets are higher this morning, especially in china, where stocks gained almost 5%. cnbc s trish regan is at the new york stock exchange. and trish, there is also a new signal from the fed about interest rates. yeah, there absolutely is, ann. in fact, fed chief ben bernanke said thursday and i quote that he s willing to tighten monetary policy when the outlook improves sufficiently. so, he s talking about the economy here. we ve been in a very low, zero-interest-rate environment for quite a long time. the concern is, what is the exit strategy? at some point, you ve got to raise rates or else you ll have inflation issues. so, he s basically prepang wall street that he will do that eventually. all right. trish regan this morning, thanks so much, trish. finally now, high winds meant big problems thursday for people at albuquerque s balloon festival. one balloon knocked over a chimney, then later hit the ground hard. two other balloons got tangled in power lines. however, no one was seriously hurt. it is now 7:10. let s go back to matt, meredith and al. i m rethinking my dream of going in a balloon. have you ever been in one? i have never been in one. i can t believe that. it s really fantastic. it s really fun, unless you re in high winds. that s bad. yeah. then monday we had that other accident. that s right. not a good week for hot air balloons. not nice to be a balloonist these days. not a great week for weather. and no end inn sight. let s see what s going on. we have flash flood watches and warnings stretching from texas all the way to ohio, and we ve got a risk of strong storms from texas on into lexington, kentucky and parts of west virginia. on the radar, you can see a lot of wet weather firing up. rainfall amounts, we re talking about anywhere from one to two inches, and it s a wide swath stretching from corpus christi, texas, all the way up into memphis, paducah, evansville, on into pittsburgh we re looking at heavy rains. then behind the system we ve got really cold air, temperatures dropping into the 20s and 30s s ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç# right here, we are dry but mostly cloudy with the sun coming up. mild is the word for today. 61 right flow. 58, clinton and brandywine and stafford. fredericksburg, you folks are at 61 degrees down south. so it s going to be mild to start the day with some clouds around. sun is up, again, coming up right now, 7:12. noontime, in the 70s. that s your latest weather. and of course, you know what comes up. it s friday. that means we look at sunday for sunday night football night in america ! that s right. the colts take on the clash of the titans. partly cloudy, cool, temperatures upper 50s to mid-60s. that s sunday night, football night in america ! meredith. yeah, al, i never know how to follow you. thank you. thank you! as president obama celebrates his noble peace prize victory, there are still some big issues on his plate, including that request to send more troops to afghanistan. the president meets with top aides today as he ponders his decision. richard engel, nbc s chief foreign correspondent, knows firsthand about the challenges in afghanistan. he followed members of the viper company through remote areas there for his documentary tip of the spear. richard, good morning to you. good morning. get to the documentary in a moment, but you re making news of your own for comments you made on morning joe yesterday. i want to talk to you about them because some people construed those comments as you basically advocating a particular policy in afghanistan. you said on the show, i honestly think it s probably time to start leaving the country meaning afghanistan i really don t see how this is going to end in anything but tears. and you went on to say that the battle to win afghan hearts and minds appears to not be working. what do you base all this on? well, when i spent a lot of time in afghanistan and iraq, it s easy to draw comparisons between the two, and obviously, i m not trying to advocate any kind of policy. that s for the decision-makers to do, and i know they re meeting and spending hours and hours doing that. but when i talk to soldiers who have been also deployed in afghanistan and iraq and many afghans, they say the two conflicts are very different. and just because the surge strategy, which won hearts and minds in iraq there is no reason to assume that it could also succeed in afghanistan. well, that s what the administration they are very different conflicts. is considering right now, whether to send in additional troops based on the general on the ground there. the idea is to try to convince the afghan people that they need protecon, that the u.s. forces should go in, protect them, convince them to accept the government, the afghan government and reject the insurgents. the problem we have right now is particularly exacerbated by the elections that happened this last summer, which many afghans do not see as legitimate. so, you have the u.s. forces trying to sell the afghan government, sell protection to the afghan people, and a lot of afghans don t want it and they don t want it from foreign troops. well, the times of london had a report on interviews with american soldiers, many of whom said they were disheartened by the situation in afghanistan, that they thought the mission was futile and that the afghan people did not want them there. is that what you re hearing? you can see it. you can see it in the body language of the people. when i was on patrol with american troops in baghdad, for example, the key difference is, there was a civil war in iraq when the surge happened so, people were desperate for outside help. civilians were killing civilians. we were walking over bodies in the streets. so, anyone who came in, including the americans, and said we want to protect you, the people were very receptive to that. i want and you would see people rush up to the patrols. that simply isn t happening in afghanistan. the patrols people just sit back and watch them. the afghans watch from inside their houses and aren t as engaged with the americans. i want to talk specifically about the taliban and the threat they pose don t pose to america. we have a clip from your documentary that deals with the taliban leader. can you set it up for us? yeah. we met a taliban commander, and there s a lot of debate right now in the united states is the taliban different from al qaeda? can you really divide the two? and i was quite surprised. i met this taliban commander and asked him, well, what is the difference between you and al qaeda? and this is what he had to say. reporter: kabul feels like it s under siege. the taliban move freely in the city. in a canal apartment, i meet a taliban commander, mul azahe. he s unarmed, but with two deputy commanders. their demeanor was cold. they told me i was sitting too close to them. the taliban find infidel disgusting. what does the taliban want? why are you fighting? our objective, he says, is to collapse the government and take over kabul. but there can be peace, he clms, if u.s. troops leave afghanistan. otherwise we are growing stronger and we will expand our operations, he says, and we are about to see, these weren t idle threats. he also says in his opinion, there is really no difference between al qaeda and the taliban, and that if he were given the opportunity, he would gladly take it to carry out an attack in the united states. in particular, they said, their focus remains new york city, which they say is the source of evil, the source of world corruption, to use their words. so the administration s efforts to separate them, say al qaeda s the rea enemy, not taliban at least according to this group of taliban commanders, you re it s not a distinction they see as clearly. they see themselves as all part of a muslim struggle, all part of a pashtun struggle for liberation in that border region between afghanistan and pakistan. richard engel, as always, thanks for your reporting. and tip of the spear premieres sunday at 8:00 p.m. eastern/7:00 p.m. central time on msnbc. it is 7:17 and once again, here s matt. meredith, thank you very much. now the latest developments in the alleged blackmail plot against david letterman. nbc s peter alexander is outside the edullivan theater with the latest on that. peter, good morning. reporter: matt, good morning to you. more mud-slinging from accused extortionist joe halderman s camp and more denials from david letterman s backers, all this more than a month before halderman s expected to appear next in court. an ugly episode that everybody agrees has no winners. reporter: wrapping up what was surely a painful week with this evening s late show already taped, david letterman left his audience laughing thursday night. they have a drive-through at the lourve mcdonald s, and this is how it works you shout your order into van gogh s good ear. amazing! reporter: but new reports are raising questions about exactly when letterman s affairs with his employees took place. those episodes are in the past. reporter: letterman s accused extortionist, suspended cbs news producer joe halderman, had little to say to reporters this week. there s nothing i can say. i hope you have a very nice day. i m not trying to hide or run, but there s nothing that i can say. so, thank you very much. reporter: but he s reportedly been telling friends that in august he saw letterman romantically embracing halderman s then girlfriend, stephanie birkitt, an assistant and occasional face on the show after letterman drove her to the connecticut home she shared with halderman. all this reportedly happened just t months ago after letterman was already married. when letterman first acknowledged the affairs, his production company, worldwide pants, insisted the late night host s sexualrelationships had all taken place before he married his longtime girlfriend, regina lasko. worldwide pants told nbc news thursday the company stands behind his previous statements and won t address individual claimsbut the constant stream of suggestive reports and growing media attention has put letterman on the defensive, diverting attention from the only criminal allegations that exist in this case the felony extortion charges against halderman. remember, prosecutors say they have dramatic evidence for their claim, including tapes that they say prove halderman committed a crime and a fake $2 million check that he attempted to ch last week. from the prosecution s standpoint, all of these allegations about david letterman s alleged misconduct are simply a side show. so, they have to feel pretty good about their case and pretty good about the likelihood of conviction here. reporter: ironically, earlier this year, halderman produced a story for 48 hours mystery about an extortion plot. in the process, halderman interviewed and befriend ed sherry jackson. i saw his picture on tv and i had to take a double take, because i could not believe that was joe, someone that we consider our friend and someone we respect. it was shocking. reporter: so, what happens next? david letterman takes the weekend off. stephanie birkitt is still on a paid leave of absence, and joe halderman remains out of jail, matt. his next court appearance is scheduled for november 10th. all right, peter alexander in midtown manhattan for us this morning. peter, thank you very much. and we have a quick programming note. coming up monday on today, two big interviews. ann curry will sit down with secretary of state hillary clinton to discuss the situations in afghanistan, iran and more. we re also going to hear exclusively from a man who doesn t talk a lot away from his show. conservative and controversial radio host rush limbaugh. who are you doing your show for? my audience, for ratings. i will admit it. let me shock the world rig here on nbc. i am doing my radio show for ratings. i want the largest audience i can get because that s how i can charge the largest advertising rates, which means, what else do i want? money. are you the leader of the republican party? i am not the leader of the republican party. don t want to be the leader of the republican party. it s silly for them to keep talking about how i m the leader of anything. it s just creating more curiosity about me. 21 years, more popular than ever? lord, thank you for my enemies. well, he certainly says what he thinks. but it is unusual for him to sit down and do an interview like that. right. because generally, he leaves all his talking for his own airwaves. so, it will be interesting to hear what jamie finds out. that s obviously not all he had to say. catch the exclusive interview in its entirety and ann s interview with secretary of state clinton coming up monday on today. just ahead this morning, the big moments just minutes away. we ll have live coverage of nasa s mission to crash a rocket into the lunar surface. but first, this is today on nbc. can a couple of plays turn the sen around? jason campbell struts his stuff. locker inspection time. for a guy on the ir. on the next just ahead, what suze orman wants couples to know about keeping a joint bank account. plus, take a look at this, a live shot of the moon where a big event is minutes away. nasa shoots the moon literally not once, but twice in search of h2o. live coverage. good morning, everyone. i m barbara harrison. the time right now, 7:26. in the news, a travel alert. if you plan to take metro this columbus day weekend, the waterfront sbu and the archives navy memorial stations will be closed, starting tonight for maintenance and inspections. both stations will reopen on tuesday. there will be no green line service between gallery plays and navy yard. some prince george s county students will be vas vax nated for the swine flu today. kids in dodge park will be among the first to receive the free vaccinations. governor o malley will be on hand to encourage it will be mild, temperatures, 61 degrees right now. wheaton, 60. 56, loudoun county. we will see a high temperature today of 82. some sunshine today. rain comes in tonight and leaves tomorrow morning. jerry? we are on the top side of the capital beltway. heavy traffic has been a tough morning. college park to silver spring, accidents 95 southbound at the capital beltway. headed for downtown, jammed to the 14th street bridge. two accidents on the freeway, one at south capital street. the other at 12th street southwest. barbara? thanks, jerry. tonight at 5:00, the big reveal. is christmas in october. it is never fly me to the moon 7:30 now on this friday morning, october 9th, 2009, and you are looking live at the moon, where in just about one minute from now, nasa will dive-bomb it. i m meredith vieira alongside matt lauer. and in a matter of moments, nasa hopes to confirm a theory that water lies beneath the lunar surface and what that could mean for us. we re going to bring you this event live. let s get to nbc s tom costello. tom, good morning. all systems go? reporter: it is all nominal, as they say in nasa speak. right now, all is going well. on the surface of the moon, where they are targeting, they believe the temperature is about minus 350 degrees fahrenheit. and we know already that lunar orbiters had detected really what they believe are excessive amounts of hydrogen, especially at the poles. so, this is all about slamming this as hard as they can. they re going to go at it with a 5,000-pound rocket here in just a few minutes, traveling at 1 1/2 miles per second, and when they do, they expect this massive explosion to come up off the surface of the moon, and they re expecting dust and rock and debris. but what they re really looking for isore than hydrogen. are they in fact going to be seeing large quantities of ice come up? right. reporter: and will that ice vaporize when it suddenly hits tom, it s about to happen in like five seconds. let s do it. let s keep our eyes on nasa s photos here or images. november, correct? confirmed. infrared camera send ir-1 to ipo-9. copy, sending command. going to an infrared shot. mark, centaur impact. that was an announcement by the flight director that the centaur impact should have happened confirm receipt of command. over. reporter: now, keep in mind, you re watching the second viewing now, wcoming from lcros. tom, i guess people were expecting some major plume of something visible to the human eye. i m not seeing that. impact on the left-most part with infrared changes. the left side of the shadow right below the dimple crater on the larger crater rim. the question is, are we going to get more as we see the satellite now fly through a plume? and you re right, i don t see a plume yet. no, nothing. mir-1, 1 hertz. mir-2, 0.0 hertz. sending mir-1 at 1 hertz. tom, stand by. we want to bring in author of physics of the impossible. he s here in the studio with us. doctor, is this what you expected or do you expect to see more? well, we expected to see a six-mile plume of gas and debris shoot out with perhaps traces of water, ice, water vapor. and it could be a game-changer if we find ice on the moon. water can be used for rocket fuel, if you separate the oxygen and hydrogen. it could be used for shielding and for drinking water. now, the people who were sitting we were told that with a fairly large telescope here on earth, you d be able to see this. and now, yet, we re looking at images coming from that trailing satellite, and i can t see anything. this is a little surprising. yeah, but you need about a ten-inch telescope, probably west of the mississippi, in order to see anything on the moon. well, the satellite that s been recording the data right now sending the images back, that says it s going to impact in about 30 seconds at this point, creating yet another plume. and creating the end of thi image that we re seeing right now, i would imagine. right. and so, how soon, doctor, will we have any kind of results from nasa as to what was found or not found? it will take just a few more hours for the spectoscopes to anale the presence for water, and realize that this is a once in a lifetime event. how often do we hit the moon like this? but i also point out that mother nature hits the moon naturally on a week with large meteorites. people were worried about this, saying you re going to throw the moon off its orbit and that will cause problems with us no way, because mother nature does that once a week. the expense of this is huge, doctor. some people said why don t we just take a huge drill to the surface of the earth and do it that way? what s the answer to that? to put a pound of anything on the moon costs about $50,000. that s five times the weight of gold. so in some sense, if we find ice, it s better than finding gold on the moon. that s how expensive space travel is. and just to make sure we don t connect too many dots if they find evidence of ice,t does not mean we should be baking cookies for little green men and women, right? that s right. light probably cannot exist in ice. we need liquid water, you need billions of years to get dna off the ground. so, we re not going to find little green men if we find ice on the moon. we re actually under a minute now. we were a little off before. doctor, how likely is it that we ll find water? it is a long shot. it is? however, the payoff is so huge, a bonanza. just think of it, millions of tons of ice under the surface. that could shave billions of dollars off the moon program. and realize with all the budget cuts, nasa s beginning to push back the time for a manned mission to the moon. why would this water have accumulated at the holes? cometary collisions going back years, radiation from the sun containing hydrogen. remember, it s very cold on the south pole, so the sunlight cannot bake the surface because it s in a shadow primitively. all right, and tom, are you still with us? reporter: i am. have to tell you, at the moment, i think a lot of people are going to be disappointed. they truly believed in this satellite was going to be providing spectacular images of the plume, and we don t see that. now you re seeing the satellite impact the moon. you know, keep in mind that the apollo missions the apollo missions themselves really focused on the equatorial regions of the moon, and so the poles were really left unexplored. and this is why they focused on the poles, because this was believed to provide the best opportunity for ice because it would be buried in a very cold part of the pole, you know, one of the coldest parts of the moon at minus 350 degrees fahrenheit. well, they re clapping, so apparently, it was successful, but but keep in mind, they re also watching a lot of scientific data stream in that we don t have access to. all we see are the pictures, are the feeds right. but maybe that satellite did in fact pick up scientific data. and you know wh, tom, maybe the problem is we re all used to these hubble-like telescope images  exactly. where you get to see just this incredible detail spoiled. and maybe that was oversold in this particular case. reporter: well, for all of us. i think we re all a little bit stunned that we didn t see more. okay, tom costello, dr. kaku, thank you very much. we appreciate it. and now, let s get a check of the weather from al. all right, thanks a lot. and we ve got okay, nobody s disappointed here because it s your sister s 6th birthday. that s you! what s your name? julia. and your name? elena. and where are you guys from? horseheads, new york. horseheads, new york! l right, i m from another part of the horse, but that s another story. let s take a look, show you what s going on as far as your weather s concerned. and for the weekend, record lows as you get into the plains with snow in the northern rockies, morning showers in northern new england, sunny and warm out west all the way into texas. then sunday, sunday! looking at some showers in northern new england and record lows continue in the plains. wet weather through the gulf coast. but out west it s going to be s right now, it s mild outside, a few clouds. call it partly sunny. that s our day for today. kind of partly sunny. in and out of cloud cover. very, very mild. dress like it is a september day. 61, the temperature right now. buoy at 58. chantilly at 58 degrees anacostia and d.c., 72 degrees. we will have a high of and they skipped work. don t tell anybody. meredith? all right, al, thank you very much. you know, it s little like a roadrunner cartoon i was expecting, you know, the thing goes all the way and then poof. i know. i know. at least some guys were applauding at nasa. they re happy. something positive came. we re being selfish now. sure, sure. anyway, ahead, the hunt for a serial rapist targeting women in of fluent neighborhoods for years. police say he cod have gotten away if not nor the courage of his victims. now to a crime spree that stumped authorities for more than a decade. women raped in their own homes in upscale neighborhoods around nashville, tennessee. the unknown attacker became known as the wooded rapist. we ll speak with two victims in a moment, but first, dateline s keith morrison explains how they helped police finally arrest the suspect. reporter: they re gracious and lovely. the tree-studded suburbs of nashville, tennessee. code six. reporter: but for 14 years, it could be terrifying here. beginning in 1994, a serial rapist targeted women, invading the very places they once felt most secure their own homes. as wsmb reporter dennis ferer covered the story, 15 women fell victim to the rapist. he had a knife or a gun, big, athletic guy, powerful build, physically imposing, ski mask, and said i ll kill you if you don t do this. reporter: it was dark, rainy nights, and because he seemed to appear from the woods, then vanish back into them, he became known as the wooded rapist. lawyer pat young was the first victim, asleep in her house when she was attacked. she couldn t stop, but she did the one thing she migthought mi survive her to let people know what happened. i took it out of his hand, which is the reason ey had dna in the case. and you held onto it, hid it? put it under the bed. and you were able to retrieve it? the police found it later. reporter: a tiny piece of skin, a precious bit of the rapist dna. the only problem was, the police couldn t locate a match and the rapes continue. zaya miller was 16 when she was assaulted at gunpoint in november of 1990. i was convinced i was going to die, that was it. i was not going to see my birthday. i was not going to direct the play two nights later. i was not going to see my parents again. i was there were a lot of things i wasn t going to do, because at was it, i was dead. i was taken to a second location. i was forcibly stripped, still at gunpoint. i was raped. i have no idea what strange world circumstances allowed it to happen, but i talked my way out of it. and i ran home thinking the whole time, there is a man with a gun and he is probably pointing it straight at me as i am running home. reporter: and then last year, on a dark night in the rain, an excited dog, some alarmed visitors, a curious cop played out an unlikely drama that netted a surprising suspect. he s been convicted of one rape, has pleaded not guilty to 12 more, to be tried one by one. for today, keith morrison, nbc news. both zaya miller and pat young are with us now. ladies, good morning. i appreciate you taking the time to talk to us. good morning. good morning. pat, let me start with you. you re a lawyer. that s how you were introduced in the piece. so, you ve spent a lot of times in courtrooms, and your trial or his trial and your case is about to begin on monday. i would imagine this trip to a courtroom s going to be very different for you. yeah. it s not my usual role, to say the least. you were, i m sure, have told the story of what happened on countless occasions to police officers and friends and family members. is it going to be very different to tell it on a witness stand? it s one of those things that never leaves you, but that was 1994. dredging back through it, thinking about this trial, it s always hard to talk about it, but it s necessary and i m glad to get the opportunity to have a courtroom setting to do it. you were actually in the courtroom for another trial involving another victim of this man, and i would imagine that would be the first time you saw him face to face in the same room because he wore a ski mask the night you were raped. what was it like to see this person that we re now looking at on the screen? well, i saw him in the arraignment. i ve been to several hearings before the trial. seeing the mugshot may of 08 was the first time that i saw his face, that i could see his face. he s very ordinary looking. you wonder how he s led two lives. right. and i met the not the public one. yeah. zea, i was struck in reading your story at the way you recount not only what happened during the rape, but what happened in the hours and days following the rape. you know, the interviews with the police, the trip to the hospital, the lie detector test. at 16 years of age, it had to be almost unbearable for you. it was the days afterwards were comparably hard to what happened that night. it was an incredible trial to have to go through the first time. have you both asked yourselves why you, why you were chosen? in a general way, probably, but you know, for years, police tried to match up where any of us had been at the same time, and it never made sense to me, because there was no common denominator for all these women. so, yeah, you wonder, but, you know, that s sort of becomes irrelevant pretty fast. zea, this alwaystays with you. we ve heard more than one person say that. and yet, you ve both managed to move forward with your lives, and i m just asking you what advice you would give to someone else who perhaps has been the victim of something like this but not come forward because they feel ashamed? go ahead. you ve got this one. i think we ve got that covered between the two of us. i think the most important thing is to not take that shame into your heart. it wasn t there is no shame. no. there is a deviant human. yeah. and it wasn t it has nothing to do with the person that was victimized. none of us did anything or could have done anything any differently. so, it has nothing to do with us. what happened to us is not about us, it s somebody else s sickness that s caused this, this mayhem to occur. well, you never can pretend it didn t happen. mm-mmm. because it s woven into the fabric of your being at that point. and talking about it and having friends and family and strangers understand this crime is people need to report. women should always report. absolutely. there should never be one that goes unreported because someone s afraid of what judgment somebody else might place on them. and there s so much of that, and it s such that s a crime in and of itself. zea miller and pat young. ladies, thank you both for sharing your stories and your time with us this morning. i appreciate it. thank you, matt. thank you. you can see more of this story tonight on dateline, through the pouring rain at 9:00/8:00 central time right here on nbc. i know there was a little disappoint about that moon-bombing thing, but good news. we have new information in from nasa s mission to dive-bomb the moon. apparently more spectacular than we first thoht. take a look. [ laughter ] getting there. ahhh! earth calling bugs bunny, earth calling bugs bunny. are you there? come in. have you prepared a statement for the press? well, yes, i have prepared a statement. get me out of here! see, so it worked out okay. it was really pretty good. see, they re all pretty happy about it. they re happy, good. yeah, see? nasa yeah, all right! big stretch, yeah! nasa known for their sense of humor. they d like to put you in the next rocket they send there. you re going, baby. exactly. well, all i can say is i hope any extraterrestrials out there didn t have a better shot than nasa did. oh, man. well, as long as they find. good mornings. i m barbara hair sois. it is 7:55 october 9th, 2009. a bethesda man is clinging to life after being shot outside his home in the 6800 block of willwood road at 7:30. the victim had just returned home and was sitting inside his car in the garage when someone approached him and opened fire. the man was shot at least once. police are looking for a motive. in southwest, washington, folks gathered to learn more about health care reform and how it impacts african-americans. the naacp hosted a national town hall meeting last night. the organization has launched what it calls an 880 campaign. the name follows a report made by the american journal of public health stating that 880,000 african-american deaths could have been prevented if health care reform had been spend some time outdoors. camp springs, 59. we will be going up to a high temperature today to the low 80s. 70s after rain ends this weekend. jerry? let s take a live look along 395, jammed big-time this morning. headed for downtown. a couple of problems on the freeway have been cleared. we are starting to recover on the top side of the beltway to silver spring as well as 95 accidents there are gone. barbara? the big reveal on news 4 at 5:00. it is christmas in october. it is never too early to drool :00 n8:00 now on a friday morning. it s the 9th day of october 2009. we ve got a massive crowd getting a start to a long holiday weekend out on the plaza. we re happy to see them. by the way, speaking of holidays, on monday we ve got a holiday concert for these people. justin bieber, 15 years old, is going to take to our plaza and put on a great show, his first time being on the show in terms of performing. he is a sensation. your kids are probably going to hear him, and if they re off school and in the area, bring them down. going to be a big crowd. that s why we ve got a big crowd already, starting columbus day weekend. there he is, justin bieber live on the plaza, 8:30 half hour. meanwhile, out on the plaza, i m matt lauer along with meredith vieira and al roker. coming up this half hour, a touchy subject for a lot of couples. yeah. do you keep a joint bank account or separate bank accounts? what do you do? we have three accounts. three. we ve joint and separate. we have joint and she s got a separate account. we have joint and separate as well. we ll hear from suze orman what she has to say about that. all right, also, david letterman certainly not the first famous person to make a public apology. here s the question, though, why do people tend to forgive some and another others? we ll get expert perspective on that. okay. also, we have big news for one of our favorite fames. jim bob and mrs. duggar have 18 kids and more on the way. that show 18 and counting. now they are grandparents. anna gave birth to mackenzie rene duggar. she weighed 8 pounds and was 19 1/2 inches long. by the way, the entire gang, including mackenzie, will be joining us exclusively on monday. monday s a huge show. big day. justin bieber, rush limbaugh, earthquake earthquake and the duggar grandchildren. and no it is time to reveal the answer, where are we today? on thursday, we showed you this shot. if you guessed one of the country s most famous, ooh, donuts, you re right. i think that s the target where nasa was trying to hit this morning. i thi so. take a look. our camera has been at randy s donuts, an iconic drive-through donut shop in englewood, california. built in 1952 with an oversized donut on the roof near l.a.x. it s been the subject of anything from viral videos to movies. open 24 hours, the owners say that randy s donuts is a reminder of a time in architecture when buildings were shaped like the products they represent. now i m hungry. your voice was so 60s there. i know. oh, there s marvin! had to find someplace after we blew the moon up. that s pretty cool. now that we ve answered the question, let s go inside. ann s standing by with the headlines of the morning. thanks, matt. good morning once again, everybody. in the news this morning, president obama woke up to the news that he has won the 2009 noble peace prize. aides awakened the president at 6:00 a.m. to give him this news. the noble committee says the president offers hope for a better future. he is the third sitting u.s. president to receive the honor, and through a spokesperson, the president said this morning that he is humbled. another bombing today in pakistan, this one in peshawar, where a car bomb exploded near a crowded market and killed at least 49 people. the government is vowing to strike back against militants. flooding and mudslides in the philippines have claimed the lives of at least 160 people and left entire villages cut off from rescuers. dramatic images there. a slow-moving storm could dump as much as six more inches of rain in the midwest today, in parts of oklahoma and missouri. drenching rains thursday stranded drivers on roads and caused several accidents. this morning, nasa s analyzing data from the moon after a 5,000-pound rocket loaded with tnt slammed into the lunar surface. it was followed by a second planned impact, both to create dust clouds. nasa calls it a huge success and a banner day. nasa s looking for any signs of water beneath the moon s surface, and they re looking for a better picture of the impact. and a zoo in the gaza strip is making the most of what it has got. the zoo cannot bring in zebras because of israel s blockade of the region, so the staff painted stripes on donkeys to make them look like zebras, and the children don t seem to mind. pretty good job. it is now four minutes haspast hour. let s get a check of the weather with al. announcer: where are we today is brought to you by comfort suites and the other fine choice hotels. and good morning. we have breakg news, breaking olympic news. what s the news? the news is, rugby is in the olympics for 2016. all right! yes! that s great. so you re part of the usa rugby team right here. yes, yes, we are. and this is a rugby ball. this is a rugby ball. go buy one. congratulations. go buy one. all right, let s see what s going on as far as your weather s concerned. pick city of the day, dallas, texas, nbc 5. heavy rain this morning, temperature about 63 degrees. flood watches and warnings from texas all the way into ohio, as far east as alabama. and as you take look on the radar, you can see this line of storms just marching east and south. rainfall amounts, we re talking a wide swath of one to three inches of rain from corpus christi all the way up into memphis, paducah, kentucky, evansvilansvilç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç# we re going to a high of 82 degrees. showers in the morning before and she s 50. what s your name? kristen. kristen s nearly 50. jackie s almost 50. linda is already 50. that s 200 years of experience. wow. matt. all right, al, thank you very much. when we come back, public figures and very public confessions. why some worked and some don t. introducing blueprint. blueprint is free and only for chase customers. it lets you choose what purchases you want to pay and those you split. interest.with full pay. you decide how to pay over time. if having a plan matters. chase what matters. eate your own blueprint at chase.com/blueprint. maybe this is one of the most important. new centrum ultra women s. a complete multivitamin for women. it has vitamin d which emerging science suggests. supports breast health. and more calcium for bone health. new centrum ultra women s. advil pm or tylenol pm? 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reporter: his dignity took a hit, but in the end, he explained his cheating on elizabeth hurley this way i think you know in life pretty much what s a good thing to do and what s a bad thing, and i did a bad thing. there you have it. reporter: maybe that all works, because he actually said what we were all thinking anyway. he was just dumb. the difference between a confession that resonates and one that falls flat may be where it comes from. the head always thinks about damage control. the heart is about making a wrong right. for today, lee cowan, nbc news, los angeles. r.j. allen is the director of clinical training in the couple and family therapy department at drexel university. steve adubato is msnbc.com s media analyst, author of what were they thinking: crisis communication, the good, the bad, the totally clueless. good morning to both of you. good morning. good morning. these public confessions, stev do they empower the person who makes them or do they make the person more vulnerable? it depends. in hugh grant s case, my wife was like,wow, i love him even more! really, that s what it takes? you have to be good-looking and charming and you have to get right to the point. and one of the things i find, meredith, is that the longer you take to say what it is, the hardest it is to get past it. say what it is quickly, take full responsibility. don t point the finger at someone else. letterman did an okay job. i m not a fan of how long it took him and the humor didn t help him. although some people say, wow, it was witty and funny. i still don t get the joke. the bottom line is take it on, take it quickly, don t blame anyone else and don t be forced into it. did he choose the right platform? that s his audience, his fan base they love him. but i don t blame him for telling them the truth, but there s a down side to that. the a is, they re laughing at the wrong time and we re running clips and saying where s the joke? and the other part is he said he wouldn t speak about it again and did. this is a dip-drip situation. he talked about it. my opinion, we talked about it in the green room here s the thing, i think he should have held a press conference, let all the questions get out of there. the lawyers would have gone crazy. he didn t have to answer all the questions, but put it out there. it would have been painful, but better. r.j., a lot of couples deal with this, not publicly, obviously, the same way, but once the apology is made, that s when the real work begins. it really is. because the apology is one thing, but it is never the end. it is only the beginning, and there will be a long road to recovery for redemption, reconciliation, reconnection, and ultimately, you ve got to rebuild that trust. that doesn t happen overnight. so, i agree with steve, that there s a lot of work to be done. you ve got to work on the public stuff, but in the court of relationship appeal, there s much more work to be done. let s talk about two apologies that didn t seem to go so well. the south carolina governor mark sanford s apology and john edwards apology. steve, what was the problem with both of those? they were horrible. first of all, we re looking at sanford right now. the appalachian trail thing will stick in my mind forever, the whole thing. here s the problem i don t judge we were talking about this, we often criticize people, say i wouldn t do that. here s what i know doesn t make sense you don t, as governor, pull everyone else intoit, where your staff doesn t know where you are, you put the state at risk. he put everyone at risk and pulled everyone into it, similar to what clinton did. it wasn t just the act of what they did. i m not judging that. it s the other part. and the other situation edwards, denial, denial, denial. listen, that s all about his wife and what an incredibly sympathetic and wonderful person she appears to be. and when he stood there and said i ll stand by you while this was going on and denying the child it s not the sex. there s a child involved and he pushed and what my instinct is, he let his lawyerly instincts take over and his human instincts should have been in charge. all right, steve adubato, argie allen, thank you both. good to be here. up next, should couples have joint or separate bank accounts? 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before specifics, do you have a general rule? absolutely. listen, you enter a relationship as an autonomous human being. you need to have your own me. he or she needs to have his or her own money, and then there needs to be a joint account where you put equal proportions of your money in that account to do what? pay your joint bills. not equal amounts of money, but equal percentages. right. so, you want couples to have three different accounts. then you say pay expenses proportiately, not equally yes. so, give an example of that. so, an example, let s say i m making $7,000 a month, you re making $3,000 a month, but our joint expenses let s just say our joint expenses are $3,000 a month. right. if we each put in 50% of that, you would be putting in $1,500 of $3,000 too much? i d be putting in $1,500 of $7,000? too little. so, what do you do? add our salaries together. that would be $10,000. divide that into our joint expenses, $3,000. that s 30%. i would put in 30%, $2,100. you would put in $900, we re even percentagewise. we went through that quickly. let s put that on our website later today so people can reference that. with this system, with three accounts and a proportional payment, it requiresoth parties take an active role in the finances, and you know that s not always the case in couples. bingo! mistake. you have to take an active role, both of you, because otherwise, one gets blamed for not having enough money to pay the bills and something happens to one of you, there we go. and you set yourself up for what happened here. but you know how it goes. you always hear one person in the couple say, well, the other one is not so good at it, or i m better or i m worse. then you have a financial date once a month where you both sit down, you both pay the expenses you both look at the bills and you make finances a family affair. just to have everying together allows you to have a big downfall if something goes wrong. all right. in the jon and kate gosselin example, clearly, one or both of them they saw this divorce coming. yes. so, what steps should they have taken prior to this clning-out disaster? what they should have done when they were in a state of love, not when they were in a state of hate, is they each should have had their own accounts. jon had x amount of money in his, kate had x amount of money in hers. she had the joint account. then everything was already split. so nobody could take anybody else s money. that s how you raise an interesting point, then. say you have a couple watching this, 10, 15 years into their marriage. they do not have this setup that you ve said is proper. how do you start how do you set it up now? so, you set it up now with having a conversation with each other how much does one want in one account? do you divide what s there equally? just divide it 50/50 and then start a joint account for expenses. but why not just divide it 50/50 right now? matt, the day has come where the one who makes the money does not have the power in the relationship. right. even stay at home mothers need to have their own account. i was going to ask you that quickly at the end. what if you have one person in the couple who is not working? do you still set it up in a similar fashion? you do. so, let s say it s a stay at home mother, the husband brings home $5,000. can you just divide it $2,500 each and now pay the bills so that at least you don t feel like you re a little kid in a relationship asking your spouse for money. all right. suze orman, good advice. thank you very much. you can catch more on the suze orman show saturday nights at 9:00 p.m. eastern and pacific time of course on cnbc. and n here s somebody call the doctor because i got the flu announcer: flu free today is brought to you by cvs pharmacy, for all the ways you now to flu free today. the cdc says roughly 100 others have been hospitalized in intensive care units. dr. brightman is a professor in obstetrics and gone ecology. why is it that pregnant women are at a higher risk of complications from the flu? well, they are, and it s probably due t some cardiovascular changes and major respiratory changes that occur during pregnancy, which makes them more susceptible to complications. so, the best way for them to protect themselves? i to be vaccinated, speak to their doctors about getting vaccinated and then also try to do things to avoid being expo d exposed. hand-washing is very, very important. if they re going to cough or sneeze, sneeze into your sleeve, cover your mouth, wash your hands. all the things we ve been given. practical things. and the h1n1 vaccine, but not the flumist. why not the flumist? the flumist is a live, tenuated virus. it s felt that the syringe and the individual, injectable viruses are much safer for women who are pregnant. and the women who is pregnant that gets this vaccine, it will not impact the baby, the fetus at all? it should not. in addition, it s so important th these women get vaccinated because they re protecting them and their unborn child, and we re really talking about two individuals here. some expectant parents are worried about the marisol in the vaccines, although there is no proof that affects children or babies. can you get the vaccine without that? you can, and it comes in many fashions. there are multidose virals that contain a small amount of thimerosal. the individual syringes don t, but it s obviously better to get vaccinated. nobody has ever proven that the amount of mercury in the thimerosal is actually harmful to the mother or fetus. if you are pregnant and come down with the flu, can you take the antiviral medication? you certainly can, and it s important they contact their health care provider with symptoms of the flu, particularly because if antiviral treatment is started within the 48 hours of the onset of symptoms, you can markedly alter the course of the infection. and if you develop the flu, can you continue to breast-feed once you ve had your baby? solutely, and it s important because that immunity can be passively passed onto the infant. dr. rebecca brightman, thank you so much. tha our time right now is 8:26. 62 degrees in the nation s capital. little breeze blowing. a lot of sunshine. good morning. i m joe krebs. in the news for today, some prince george s county students will be vaccinated for the swine flu. children at dodge park in landover will be among the first to receive the free vacinations. governor martin o malley will be on hand to show the importance of the sunshine. some septemberlike warmth. beautiful sky. lots of blue. today likely to be the warmest we have seen in 11 days or felt. 61, that s what it is like right now in d.c. 50, in baltimore. 62, annapolis and through pax river. 57 degrees right now in manassas and around sudly. we will see a high temperature today up to 82. 70s this weekend. jerry? a little hard to tell through the trees. let me show you what we have got going on here. an accident a couple of seconds ago. equipment responding, 270 southbound near 370. authorities on the scene reporting back. multiple vehicles involved in this accident. it could be very serious in nature. we will keep you updated. lanes are open. we are looking better on 395 northbound and across the 14th street bridge. joe? tonight on news 4 at 5:00, the big reveal. christmas comes early. it is 8:30 now on this friday morning, october 9th, 2009. a large crowd starting the day with us in rockefeller plaza, beginning of the columbus day weekend, and we are expecting a larger crowd on monday when the hottest new tee sensation around, justin bieber, will have a live concert here on the plaza. kids are off on columbus day, and i think that s pretty much every kid. pretty much. come down on this area and enjoy the concert. i just got yelled at. why? this lady here said i was blocking her shot. sorry, i apologize. i apologize. anyway, cheese. cheese! are you ready to talk about cheese is this. oh, yeah. giada de laurentiis is here this morning. she s going to talk about one of the mainstays of italian cuisine. cheese. i love parmesan, she s got pepperino you ve got a little pecorino right there. you can find out more from deborah norville, with a new book on the topic. i think it s because of these i m sorry. there s deborah norville. i didn t want to squeeze right there. okay, thanks. sorry. anyway what about deborah norville? she s here. she wrote a book on respect and how it can change lives. it improves business, improves you personally and professionally. i think that s true. there isn t enough of it in the world. especially when you re squeezing your co-anchor s muscles. anyway. okay. we have a 10-year-old who had a dream one night and literally turned that unique vision into her own business. we re going to hop aboard the country s only dance studio on wheels. cool. but first, let s bring in mark schreiber. he s the vice president and managing director of u.s. programs for save the children hello. good morning. mark, nice to see you. nice to see you, mark. good to see you. actually, you re talking about your organization s new program, early steps to school success, and you are targeting children 5 and under and their families in rural areas. yes, we are. save the children s been doing that work for a number of years now. it s incredibly important because kids that are 4 years of age are already 18 months behind kids that are not in poverty. so, it s really important that we address children s needs at an early age, and the country does not do that well. and you tell me it s actually getting worse,he situation the economy. one in six kids in america live in poverty, and those kids mean kids that we re going to spend billions and billions with working with on mediation dollars. so we need the country to get involved. we need the federal government to put more money in early childhood education. we need corporations, churches involved. ikea has done a great job working with save the children to get the message out. they ve been a leader in social responsibility. i think what you said is important. people will say, i don t live in the impoverished neighborhoods, so why does this affect me? and it does. this affects everybody in this country. absolutely. a lot of folks talk about the importance of vaccinating kids, our most important natural resource or our most important resource. and the bottom line is we don t as a country. only 3% of the kids eligible for head start get those services. so, we need to do more and engage all segments of society, corporations, churches, synagogues. all of us could have a role to play in this. so, really, bottom line is, it s about investing in the future that our children and grandchildren will inherit. yes. and in that way, it s easy to love the work that you re doing. thank you. while you re here, we want to mention, it s been an awfully difficult month for your family, loss of your mother eunice and ted kennedy. thank you very much. they were advocates on behalf of those who couldn t speak. and i hope it will play a role in keeping that legacy alive. when kids are that far behind at age 4, kids in poverty. we as a country need to do more. and i m hopeful that your viewers will get engaged and push for this issue, because young kids need our help and they need the help of all of the communities, corporations like ikea, churches, so many of us could get engaged, and i hope . ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç some nice sunshine outside. right now, 61 degrees in d.c. 57, manassas. 52, quantico. laurel, 60 degrees. annapolis, 62. we will be warming up rather rapidly up to 70 by noontime. 80, the high around 2:00, 3:00 today. sunshine, a few clouds late. showers after midnight. showers first thing tomorrow morning. we will be left in the 70s f and that s your latest weather. and for all your weather needs, go to the weather channel on cable or weather.com online. all right, when we come back, deborah norville s thoughts on respect. but first,his is howing respect is a simple concept, but apparently, some people have forgotten it. representative joe wilson shouted you lie at president obama during his recent address to congress. kanye west interrupted taylor swift s acceptance speech at the mtv video music awards, but deborah norville hasn t forgotten. her new book is called the power of respect: benefit from the most forgotten element of success. deborah, good morning to you. hey, meredith, thank you. interesting statistics to back up probably the reason why you wrote the book. 79% of people say lack of respect is a serus problem. 60% say rude and selfish behavior is increasing. why havee gotten to this place? i think we ve gotten to this place because people have just become, first of all, so time-pressured. they forget to be nice. but i also think there s a certain permissiveness out there. on the internet, you can say anything you want with anonymity. we ve seen people shouting in congress. on television shows, what used to be civilized discourse has now turned into shoutfest and the loudest guy wins. it permeates through the culture, and i think those statistics, actually, while frightening, they re encouraging. because if 79% of the people say this is a problem, then 79% of the people say hey, i d like to do something about it. yeah, we d like to change things. in your book, you look at the benefits of treating people with respect. this is fascinating. you claim respect can save businesses, restore calm to our classrooms and keep families intact. starting with businesses how does it save businesses? it s been estimated that the cost of workplace disrespect is $64 billion in this country. when people feel disrespected, they leave. when they feel really disrespected, they leave and they sue. you can actually make an example of general motors. it lost a major discrimination lawsuit several years agoohe tune of millions of dollars, and we all know what s happened with general motors now. if a company is mindful of the way it treats its workers, it gives those workers an opportuny to feel like they ve got a chance to advance and it recognizes the contributions of the workers. those workers actually work harder, they re more creative, they have 50% more creative ideas after somebody said, hey, great job. do you have an example of a company that is doing it right? oh, gosh, there is so many. in the book, i talk with terry lundgren, who s the ceo of macy s. and they had a major merger a couple years ago, when the may company came in with macy s. they came up with a plan to allow workers throughout the company to feel that what they said mattered, that they had a voice, even though this is a huge company with 800 stores. when people feel empowered, they perform better. what about respect in the classroom and restoring calm to the classroom? i think this is maybe the most exciting thing, because we care so deeply about education. president obama is talking about extending the school year. respect programs in schools have actually been proven to reclaim 17 days of additional teaching time by not sending kids to the principal s office, by not wasting your teaching time writing up disciplinary reports. and in those schools where respect programs have been put in place, kids sit still, they listen, teachers teach. reading scores have as much as doubled in some of these schools. and the way it works is really simple. the kids, the administrators and the faculty all come together and agree, what do we want this school to look like? let s stop for a moment and let s define what a respectful environment is. and once you do that and you outline how you achieve it, amazing things can happen. and you can apply a lot of the same principles to your home as well. can you teach respect, ultimately? yeah, you can. you teach by modeling, first of all. it s funny. i recognized this summer why my husband is the way he is. i get up in the morning early and i get on my computer. carl gets up, he makes the coffee, he brings me my coffee. i always make a point of saying to the kids, daddy is so great. he brings me my coffee every morning. this summer his parents were with us. his father does the same thing. so, it can be modeled. and you can also encourage it by not always harping on what your child did wrong, but recognizing what they ve done right, eaven though it might be a small thing. when you recognize what they re doing right it encourages them to do so much more. and as you point out, don t forget self respect. that s where it starts. if you respect yourself, figure out what is fog valued about you, it makes it so much easier to share that with the people around you. thank you for being here. you re a lovely lady. the book is called the power of respect, deborah norville. up next, cooking with giada and cheese. this morning on cooking with giada, say cheese! from mozzarella to parmesan, pecorino, many great italian meals include cheese. today contributor and italian chef giada de laurentiis is here with the best ways to enjoy those cheeses. giada, this is right up my alley. why do you think i m doing this spot? i love this. and we start with parmesan. yes. i like it in chunks. the crunchier, the better. first of all, the difference between parmesan and pecorino because it s kind of used interchangeably in a lot of recipes. yes. parmesan is a cosmo cheese, pecorino is a smoked cheese. that s the difference. is there a difference in taste? there is. parmesan is aged longer, 12 to 24 months, which gives you the granular crunchiness. which i like. and it mellows out the flavor. pecorino is only ages 8 to 12 months, so it s a sharper cheese. so if you re making pasta dishes, is there one that calls for parmesan and one calls for pecorino? i use them interchangeably. in fish dishes, traditiolly, my grandfather will say, you can t put cheese at all, because it kills the flavor of the fish. a lot of people will add parmesan. pecorino s really strong, so something like that you wouldn t. people go to the supermarket and buy pre-grated cheese. you re turning your nose up already. you don t like that? listen, i get it, it s convenient. the problem is, any time you buy something packaged that s pregrated, you don t know what s in it, fillers, preservatives, additives, whatever it is. so you know what you re getting with a block of cheese, it s less expensive and lasts longer. but how long can they keep it in the refrigerator? and did you ever get the cheese out of the refrigerator and you have the teeny spot that looks like mold, do you throw the whole thing off? with a hunk of cheese like parmesan, cut it off and you re good to go. wrap it well, air-tight in a container, it will last three, sometimes six months. and in terms of serving it, always room temperature some. always. any cheese, any cheese platter, always room temperature, 30 to 40 minutes before you re going to serve it, pull it out. now cheese platters. what are some of your favorites here? the whole idea with a platter is i like to think, a hard cheese, medium cheese and a soft cheese. so textures. flavor and texture s important. so i have a guda, which is a medium cheese, a bree, which is a soft cheese and that s important to have it at room temperature so it melts a bit. plus, if it s cold, you don t taste anything. your taste buds just get cold. then i have a cheddar cheese, but this is sort of treated like a blue cheese, so it s kind of a combination. a parmesan and a goat. okay. i m just i love the parmesan, that s why. oh, and with the goat, a great way to cut it, use unflavored dental floss. why not a knife? because it usually falls apart, especially at room temp. good advice. moving on. nice little sides. so i have a balsamic reduction, balsamic vinegar, sugar and rosemary. let it reduce down. it gets nice and thick. and i like to either drizzle it over the cheese or dip the cheese in it. now, this particular the balsamic vinegar for certain kinds of cheeses? no, you can use any cheese. i love it on the hard cheeses, on the parmesan. don t double dip. no, i promise you. then i also have a honey. it s really good. it offsets yeah. then i have a honey that i just added orange peel to it and let it sit for a half hour. oh, and there they come. there they come. someone said cheese. quickly, what about the nuts? sweet and salty nuts. i like crunchy, so i make them with chili oil, salt and sugar. then an array of breads, some toasted breads, which is great for the soft cheeses, then fresh breads and meats, prosciutto, salami do you have favorites of cheeses? i like the blue. you like blue? stilton. that s an english cheese. that soft stuff? you re making it up. can i touch your peck again? let s not be cheesy, guys, come on. if you have the mortadella and the salamis and that, which cheeses do you tend to serve with all these or is it interchangeable? interchangeably, but if you re making a sandwich and take a piece, i like the bree. it has a softness to it. there s bree. we ve got cheddar with blue in it for both al and ann. ooh! yes, there you go. and with the cheese platter, i picked those cheeses yes, they re my favorites, but they re also accessible to everybody. you can find some sort of cheddar, some sort of blue at any store. a lot of people think cheese is bad for you. you know what, nothing s bad for you if you don t eat too much of it. if you eat tons of cheese every day, yeah, like everything else in life. everything in moderation. you were saying your grandfather said this. i see this happen in restaurants all the time. the waiter comes over offering the grated cheese and there is a pasta dish with mussels or shrimp in the dish. is there always no cheese with seafood in the pasta dish? traditionally, it s no cheese, but the new generation says you can have a little cheese, it s okay. you know, we change. we change. but yes, my grandfather, who is 90 no cheese. if he sees me put cheese on it okay there we go. like staeak sauce on a steak. not bad. good steak sauce. thank you, giada, very much. now the crew digs in. now to a remarkable, young woman who found a way to make one of her dreams come true. today national correspondent jenna wolfe has her story. jenna, good morning. good morning to all of you. it s not often you meet a 10-year-old blazing her own trail, but then again, amia alexander is not your average 10-year-old. she s already averaged to refine the art of multitasking. you know that feeling you get when the last school bell rings for the day, when work is done and what s left is usually fun? 10-year-old amiah alexander doesn t quite see it that way. i mean, like, some days, i just like to play and be a sixth grader and do my homework. then on some days, i sometimes like to, like, go to work. i call it work. reporter: by day, she s a student. by afternoon she s a full-on entrepreneur. see that bus? she owns it. see that dance studio? she runs it. oh, my look at this, amiah! this is like a real dance studio! it s called amiah s mobile dance academy, and it came to her in a dream one night. i woke up at 1:06 in the morning, and like in my head, i saw a pink bus, and i wrote my ideas down and i skehed out the bus and i colored it. and i ran to my mom and i woke her up and i told her. and she s like, can we just go back to bed? tell me in the morning. reporter: after a little more convincing, amiah got her bus in december, and after a paint job and some seat-clearing, classes began that next month. on the dancing bus, she teaches ballet, tap, jazz, hip-hop, salsa and merengue. her students range in age from 2 to 12. the schedule, instruction and business model all come from amiah. we don t need the television in our house. she entertains, she imitates. she has fun, even with her teachers. reporter: tabira was 20 years old, a single mother and college student when she had amiah, a situation that could have easily hampered each other s growth. instead, they grew close and that bond bore them strength. it made me a stronger person because i knew that it wasn t just me. i had to live for amiah now. i think she caused me to mature much faster. your mom was saying some really nice things about you. how does it make you feel that she says she s a better person because you re in her life? feel good about that? yes. reporter: it s a family affair. her inspiration, that comes from her mom. the bus driver, her great uncle, santiago. i think that she s a little ahead of her time. reporter: so, here s how it works. amiah s bus travels to various schools and parks. she attracts a loyal following arms out! reporter: and then she does what she does best dance. nice job! can you show me what you learned? what did you learn so far? what is this called? wash the window. reporter: do you think dancing helps take the stress away from your everyday life? no. reporter: what do you say we put on some music and let me see can you guys free dance for a little bit? freestyle? reporter: oh, freestyle. sorry, i ve got to use the right term. not only were the dance moves hot, so were we, so we took it outside for the final number. wait a minute, we re missing someone. where s renata? okay, you know what, whatever, let s do it anyway. music! woo! high ten! well, amiah has a patent on that bus, i don t have a patent on those dance moves. it s the one and only dance studio on wheels in the nation. when i asked what she wants to be when she grows up, she said confidently she wants to attend harvard medical school and become a doctor just like her mom. can you believe it? she s going to do it. definitely, she s going to do it. what a mother. what a mother. to believe in her so much. to enable her to do it. she could have just said forget about it but she continued. well, she did say go back to bed at first. then she listened later. jenna, thanks so much. thanks, jenna. still ahead, six keys to being happy. 8:55 is our time right now. a lot of wright sunshine out there. 62 degrees. looks like a nice day. we will get the forecast coming up on this friday morning, the 9th of october. good morning. i m joe krebs. in the news for today, a young tune is in the hospital after she was found sho in northeast washington. police say she was found around 9:00 last night in the 500 block of edgewood street northeast. she had been shot in the head. she was rushed to washington hospital center. no word this morning. however, the police have a suspect in mind. heads up if you plan to travel metro this columbus day weekend. the metrorail stations will shut at 10:30 tonight for maintenance and safety inspectionings. both stations will reopen after tuesday. no green line service between the navy yard and outside, a gorgeous blue skichltd can you get any better than this? 61 degrees in the district. georgetown and tacoma park, 61. reston, 60 degrees. quantico, you folks are at 62 degrees. we ll see a high today of 82 degrees. some showers after midnight. so today, dry, sunny, feeling like september. tomorrow, the showers end. our temperatures for highs in the low 70s. 60s for sunday. jerry? all right, veronica, along interstate 66, travel lanes are all open. we had some hazy sunshine to deal with earlier in the day. elsewhere, along i-270 southbound, still dealing with the accident near 370. at least one lane is still blocked off. top side of the beltway, a little better. college park to silver spring. joe? thanks very much. tonight on news 4 at 5:00, christmas in october. never too early to drool over ah, happy anniversary to those people. we re back now with more of today on a friday morning, 9th day of october 2009. just let s stop and take a grander at all the nice people who gathered in our plaza. huge crowd yes. despite some calls for rain today. holiday crowd. that s right. pre-columbus day crowd. right. not a bad group of people. and maybe some of these people here are preparing to get ambush makeovers. makeovers, yes, yes. that s right. that s going to happen later on. out on the plaza, i m matt lauer with al roker and natalie morales. later this half hour, it s an open house. we re talking real estate here from texas to connecticut to the heart of the midwest. we ll show you what your money can buy these days. some cases you want to spend $500,000 or less, in some cases, very much less. we ll take you on a real estate tour in a couple minutes. nice little kitchen on that house. also ahead, bouncing back. you know we all go through setbacks in life, whether you know, people have lost their jobs or are going through, of course, this economic recovery and economic uncertainty. but everything from divorce to illness, it can sometimes seem overwhelming. so, coming up this morning, we re going to tell you six things you need to know to make you happy. well, one of those things would have to be paula deen. yes! everybody gets happy with paula deen. yes. everybody loves paula deen. who doesn t love paula deen? and coffee cake. that s right. we re combining two of our favorites. ms. paula has got a nontraditional coffee cake that she s going to show you how to make so you can bring to your dinner party this weekend. sounds good. oh, she s eating it now! is that dough? i hope that s not raw dough, was it? was that raw dough, paula? no. yes. she might not be around for this segment, actually. let s go inside. ann s got a check of the headlines. good morning to you. good morning to you, matt. good morning, everybody. at 6:00 a.m. eastern time today, president obama was awakened with the news that he has won the 2009 noble peace prize. the announcement, which stunned even the white house, was made in norway. the prize committee said that its choice was unanimous and based on what it called mr. obama s extraordinary efforts to strengthen international diplomacy and rid the world of nuclear weapons. pakistan s interior minister is now vowing an all-out offensive against the taliban in pakistan, this after a terror attack today, the country s worst in six months. a suicide bomber struck this morning near a crowded market in peshawar. hospital officials counted at least 49 fatalities and more than 100 people wounded. the second typhoon in two weeks has brought more misery to the philippines. flooding and mudslides there have claimed at least 160 lives. more rain is expected today from texas to ohio. flash flooding on thursday stranded drivers in missouri, kansas and in illinois. and one farmer was killed by a lightning strike. a scary moment last night after a hockey game in st. louis. a crowded escalator sped up and the bottom stairs collapsed, injuring 13 people. confirmed the presence of water. the second spacecraft, though not visible to mot. nasa says it did in fact impact a huge explosion. filmmaker steven spielberg has won three oscars but says he was truly honored by the award he received last night in philadelphia. spielberg was given the national constitution center s liberty medal, presented by forrer president bill clinton. philadelphia s mayor called spielberg a global ambassador of hope. it is now three minutes past the hour. it s time to get another check of the weather from al. thanks a lot, ann. as we look and show you what s happening for today and the weekend, we ve got extensive flooding today, going from texas all the way into ohio, flood warnings, flash flood watches and flood watches. also the risk of strong storms and isolated tornadoes from brownsville to lexington, kentucky. as you look at that rain ving, it s marching along from texas on into the northeast. rainfall amounts generally about one to two inches, but we ve got three to four inches of rain falling anywhere from corpus christi on into memphis,s ç#ç#ç# right here, we ll be unseasonably mild as temperatures push in through the low 80s across the area. we have lots of sunshine out there. looking at our window, on the sky cam. forest heights and district heights, 63. prince george s county, woodbridge, mt. vernon, 64. the plains, up to 62 degrees. we ll see a high today of 82 degrees. plenty of sunshine. showers move in after midnight. ending early tom brick house now on to today s real estate and what you can get for $200,000 to $500,000. from bungalow to english manors, we have something for everyone. today contributor and brick house barbara corcoran is here for an open house. good to see you again. good morning, al. first of all, interesting news in that mortgage rates are down to 8.47%. people saying historic record lows? is this pushing up mortgage applications? well, actually, it s down over one-tenth of a point as opposed to a week ago, so a bit overplayed by the banks, i believe, but it s a big it s a little piece of good news after a lot other good news out there. so it makes people feel more optimistic. so, for that, it s good. okay, so for people in a buying mood, whave good houses to show them. first of all,we re going to round rock, texas. okay. take a look. we have $375,000 for this neat house. and this is only 25 minutes from austin. it s a big, brick house, as you like to say. it has 3,500 square feet and it s perfect for impressing your friends, a boss. now, that right there wow! is your own putting green. it not only has that, it has a fountain and a big patio area out back and you have a huge yard. that s a fancy kind of house. and a low cost of living there? oh, yeah. very low cost of living. right here, you can probably live for 15% cheaper than anywhere else in the country. so that house you get for that amount of money is bigger here than almost anywhere else in the country. thhouse has open floors, open floor plan, huge windows throughout. the columns there, that s a spare room. a lot of people would love that as a living room. it has a kitchen with a pantry. that s the master bedroom. and look at the beautiful shrubbery outside that window. it has a separate family room with the hardwood floors, the fireplace, wall-to-wall windows. that s the master bath. that s your own little pool room. just spare room to play pool. it s got everything. come on. this house is a stunner and it s in mint, mint condition. all right. we re going to head to the pacific northwest now, springfield, oregon, and $275,000. and springfield is only ten minutes from eugene and it s, of course, the home to the university of oregon. that is a very contemporary home, and it s in a quiet, wooded neighborhood. but you think you re miles from the center of town. you re really not. it s very close to town. it s got that beautiful, big deck out front that, frankly, needs a little furniture, in my opinion, would make it look a little bit more welcoming. it s been staged for sale, meaning they ve rented all this furniture you re seeing throughout the house to make the house look more attractive. is that a good idea? it s a great idea because nobody likes an empty house. it makes it feel smaller. it smacks of the message that the seller is desperate to sell. you don t want to put a house on the market if it s empty. staging is a great idea. there s the master bath there. the master bedroom suite is upstairs, very private, spacious, it has trav teen counters. the whole house is a pretty, pretty house. now south to montgomery, alabama. another beauty, talking $495,000. and it s at the state capitol, of course, and you know that this particular city gets half its beauty because it s right on the alabama river. this is 4,400 square feet big. it s an english manor style house, very impressive. look at that beautiful cobblestone courtyard out front. most people call it a driveway. when it s that big, you call it a courtyard, okay? original molding, brass chandeliers, a separate den, a library. that s the library you re looking at right there. it s an impressive living room, beautifully furnished, stone floor, built-in bookcases, gorgeous fireplaces, wall-to-wall windows. that s one of the children s rooms, and each room is entirely spacious. it has french doors that lead from the back patio into the kitchen. that is a beautiful den there. and look at the size of those beautiful trees. that adds tremendous value to any home, when you have mature trees like that. almost looks like an estate. it looks like old money. let me tell you, people pay extra if they have new money for a house that looks like old ney. all right. good to know. okay. now, let s head to missouri, just outside of st. louis. university city. this house is going for $305,000. and this is a close suburb of st. louis. it s only 15 minutes away. and don t judge this house by its cover. you would swear that s a little house. oh, yeah, absolutely. wait until you get inside. it s much bigger than it looks. it a classic dutch colonial home. they always look smaller on the outside, but once you re in, you see what it looks like. that s the large, spacious living room, the stairwell going upstairs, an adjacent kitchen, nice and open, the kind of floor plan families love today. all the windows are new, the floors are new. everything about this house is in toothbrush move-in condition. it has a second floor that has three big bedrooms, an extra large vaulted bath with slate tiles, double skylights. that s one of the master bedrooms. there are actually two, and there s the other one. and in the back, there s a patio and a fenced backyard. there s the beautiful master bathroom. beautiful master bath. brand new. and one more play, litchfield, connecticut. you want it get them all in. people like litchfield because of the stone walls and old trees and it s a frindly community. this is a vintage posted beam colonial home in turn-key condition. when you look inside, the master bedroom has vaulted posts. i m talking fast now. this living room has a fireplace. missed a chair in the living room. okay, that s rt of the kitchen, but it s really only the breakfast room. a den there with a beautiful red couch, okay, and the kitchen. and i think we ve done it, right? that s right. one more, sherwood, wisconsin whoa, you are greedi iny tod yes. shorewood is ten minutes from milwaukee, hometown of ritchie cunningham and the fonz from happy days. so, this is a happy house in a happy town and everyone loves this house because it s everyone s idea of a sweet little house with all the bells and whistles that you want in a darling little house. and we did it! barbara corcoran, nobody s better than you. have a great weekend. thank you, al. coming up next, how to find happiness, especially in trying times. then later on, shape up like a hollywood star. one of the hottest trainers spills his secrets. this morning on today s woman, how to smile through the toughest of times, whether you ve lost your job or much worse, someone you love, being sad or angry can negatively affect both your physical and mental wellbeing. the current issuef body & soul magazine has tips on finding happiness. dale atkins wrote sanity savers: tips for women to live a balanced life. good morning. good morning. we have to begin with the respect. if you feel bad because of any of the things i just listed, you are feeling normal. this is completely normal. you ve got to respect that those feelings are very intense and very real. but there is, you think, a way to find peace, a less stress, even when everything feels like it s falling around you, terry. absolutely. i think there s a few, to push off the bottom a little. yes. and one thing you say and this may be the hardest thing for people to accept you say accept change. change can be good. but how do you tell somebody who just lost their mother or father, just lost their job, that change is good? well, you can t say, perk up, it will get better! you don t want to say that. the change is well, like my mother says, there is nothing constant in the world but change. so you don t ever come out of it saying you need to turn around, you need to feel better, right? yeah. i think what we have to do is understand that life is about change. that s what it is, and it s all about resiliency and adaptability, but unless you recognize that the change often comes with and is really it s really about loss. how you say good-bye to that which was and then integrate what happened and then go forward. you have to mourn it. yes. that s so important to the press. and realize and tell yourself that it s going to be okay. sort of be like that oak tree in the wind storm. that s, i think, the way you have to sort of look at change. and one of the ideas is to worry well. now, we re all going to worry. what does worry well mean? worry well, the key there is to distinguish between productive worry and unproductive worry. you know, when you get caught in this circuit of worry and you just keep going around and around and around, you re not moving yourself forward at all. so, the way to do that is to figure out which worry comes with an action you can take, so that if you re worried about something, can you do something about that worry? if you can t, it s sort of pointless, right? it s pointless and it s destructive, self-destructive. and one of the other things you can do is, how did i get through something awful before? what strategies d i u? what do i have internally that i can go to? and the difficult issue with worrying badly is that you only you keep going down into this terrible cycle and you re not moving forward, you re not thinking of new ideas of how to approach something. you talk about instead of going in with worry, practicing expansion going out with maybe being more physical? yes, rit. more reaching out to your family and friends? is that what that means? practicing expansion is an important thing. it works on a physical and mental level. when we hear bad news when bad times come, we tend to hunker down and constrict and contract, and you stay in a sort of par littic state. so, one way to do this is physically practice taking up more space, taking deeper breaths, standing taller and then expandr your mind, looking at all of the onsions you have and not thinking i only have one option and that s it. really think of your way out of a situation. and in many ways, that way out is figured out by looking for the lesson, which makes a lot of sense. yes. we ve always been told to look for the lessons. but one of the tips in addition is to develop resilience. okay, honey girl, how do we do that? how do we develop resilience? because that really is the key. well, yes. well, two ways you create resilience are, one, learning to let the thoughts bounce a little bit. i mean, a lot of what has happened when you re mourning a situation, that has already happened. what makes it, you know, even worse, is our thoughts that keep kind of hammering us with negativity. so, one thing to do first is to say, what, if there were a higher purpose for this, what would it be? what have i learned? what can i get from it so it wasn t a waste of time, so it s not woe is me, b it s more like, what have i gained as a result of this? it may be a greater connection to family, friends, et cetera. the other thing is meditation. and i don t mean you have to run off to the himalayas and abandon your life, but literally taking a few minutes every day to just breathe and counter that thought circuit. and the reason that it s so important to do that is because the body has to rest, but the mind has to rest. and when we are constricted, we often shut down and we are not ready to be creative in solving problems. and when we do allow our minds to take a little vacation, what we do is we are open to new possibilities. and with the body, you know, you can really stretch, as terri said, and you can bend but not break. reach for things that are higher in your own mind. and you say things to yourself that you will succeed, that you will do well. and you also have to help other people. you have to understand that your job or your job loss, your own personal loss is about your life. but when you reach out and help other people in some way, you expand your horizon and you will feel better so that sometimes we don t reach out to others. we don t reach out to our friends, use our outer resources, our inner resources. but we must also help others and help to just change the world a little bit. i think that s absolutely key, because then you can almost put your own concerns, your mourning in perspective. in perspective. we have more tips at body & soul magazine. we ve run out of time. thank you so much for some good advice. there is much more i think to give on this. thank you. the wild, star-studded world of celebrity stylists is coming up, and bravo star rachel zoe will be stopping by to tell us all about it. the intention of lying is a movie by ricky gervais now going around the country, and our gene shalit weighs in. good morning and welcome to the critic s corner. imagine a place where no one s ever heard a lie because lying is unheard of. good morning, shelly. hi, mark. i realize more and more every day how overqualified i am for this position and how incompetent you are at yours. there is not even a word for it. very embarrassed i work here. hi. hi. hello. and you re very pretty. that only makes this worse. one and all say whatever they mean, so, have a nice day could become, i hope you get run over. i ve always hated you. you ve always? hated you. i ve never known that. yeah, a lot of people know it. everybody tells it like it is, embarrassing, insulting and always bogus funny. any messages? well, i told everybody you re getting fired this week and they wouldn t have their calls returned, so nobody left any messages. even advertising tells the truth. one day, a mental and physical slouch played by ricky gervais startles hmself in a bank when he gets cash by lying. how much are you going to be withdrawing today, sir? $800. says here that you only have $300. it seems our system has made a mistake. here you go. and here lies the crux of the invention of lying. this leads to a line of falsities that lead to success, and it seems fun, until word spreads that mark knows the details of the luxurious afterlife in heaven. masses mob his house to hear what they came here after. mark shows upholding revelations that he s written unlike moses tablets on the backs of two pizza boxes. huh? after that comic high point, the invention of lying runs out of invention and sputters to a flat finish. the world s going to end unless we have sex right now. do we have time to get to a motel or do we need to do it right here? but half the time it s clever fun, which isn t half bad. this is the greatest movie ever made. remember, the truth always lies in the critic s corner, and that s it for today. wow, pretty funny. i love ricky gervais. he seems incredibly talented. he is. you said he actually came up with the office ? he was the original there you go. and we re telling you the truth when we say paula deen is up in the kitchen. errell wedge. getting up to 80 in the nation s capital. we will get the weather coming up shortly. it is october 9th, 2009. it s 9:26. i m barbara harrison. in the news, beginning of columbus day weekend, we are going to see some changes. we will tell you about those coming up. a bethesda man is clinging to life after he was shot outside his home. it happened in the 2100 block of melrose. he had just returned home and was sitting inside his car when someone approached him and opened fire. the man was shot at least once. police are investigating to find a motive. in southwest washington, people gathered to learn more about health care reform and how it impacts african-americans. the naacp hosted last night s town hall meeting. the organization has launched what it called the 880 campaign. they found that 880,000 african-american deaths could have been prevented if health care reform had been enacted a decade ago. we will come back with tra rewind to early september. it is going to be mild today. 60s to the 80s. lou 80s with lots ofunshine. the accident southbound toward montgomery village has cleared. lanes are open. delays are starting to ease a little bit down toward the beltway. barbara? some metro changes coming up for columbus day weekend. tonight at 5:00, the big reveal, can a couple of plays turn the sen around? jason campbell struts his stuff. locker inspection time. for a guy on the ir. on the next that is popular crooner michael buble, known for his sweet sounds and gentle voice, and he s going to share it with us live on tuesday on today. but on monday, alert the teens and tweens in your house. a teen sensation, justin bieber, will be live front and center live on today. if you have kids and they re off and of course, it s columbus day bring them down to the plaza, because it is going to be huge. yes. that s right. how s the weather going to be? so talented. it s going to be great. perfect! coming up this half hour, hold the crew back, because the queen of southern hospitality, paula deen is here, and she is cooking up something sweet for breakfast or for dinner. it is just a good old kind of coffee cake. ooh, that looks good. always good. sweet, sweet, sweet. also ahead, if you have a big event coming up, you might want toear from this couple next half hour. they re behind something called wedded to perfection. they show us the tricks of their trade when it comes to creating over-the-top, low-budget party tables. great. also, how to get the body of a hollywood star. we re going to get the secrets from popular trainer harley casternate. not like you re stealing somebody s body. yeah, okay. that s the plot of young frankenstein. yes. but we have lester and jenna here with us with a preview of what s coming up this weekend. are you glad you re here? i m glad i m here. we ll have a checkup on swine flu. now that the vaccine is available, how many people are taking advantage of the shot? is it working? why are people still afrai we ll t into all that this weekend. plus, look at this gadget. this is called the drool cleaner, but it s for pets. it s for pets. al was like, can i see that for a second? it s a product that can simplify life for pet owners. it s got a squeegee on it. because there s a lot of drool, apparently. lester! i ve got nothing. i m sorry. we re still working on something as dramatic as that moon explosion this morning. oh! great tv, riveting. yeah, we re still looking for a good video shot of that, because i heard it happened. it was really fantastic. we just didn t get to see it. anyway, let s talk about the weather. okey doke! for the weekend, first of all, a little leaf looking, you ve got past-peak colors up in the plains and the rockies, but it s just getting to the peak in the ohio river valley and new england. and our weekend weather, we ve got record lows in the plains, beautiful out west, lots of sunshine. showers along the eastern seaboard. s ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç#ç# meanwhile, here are some mostly sunny skies. there is the tree line. we have a teen any, tiny bit of color showing up here. we have to go to the shenandoah valley and skyline drive to get better cool. 63, marysfield and damascus at 64. it will be very mild today with highs in the low 80s. and after you watch sunday today with lester and jenna, of course, that means you re just getting ready, warmed up for sunday night football night in america. it s a big one. the colts taking on the titans in tennessee. partly cloudy, cool, temperatures 59 to 64. on sunday night, football night in america. ann! al, thank you so much. i think you need the drool cleaner now. thank you. mm-mmm, that feels good. no, the squeegee you need, the squeegee. i love doing this. up next, how to get hollywood fit. this morning on get fit today, secrets of a celebrity trainer. want to know how your favorite stars get their killer bodies? well, they hire this guy, harley pastern pasternak, author of the five factor diet, and he s here to share his secret moves to get a strong, toned body. harley, good morning. good morning. we don t have to spend a lot at the gym. these are things you can do in your house. we re using a benny, sometimes no equipment at all. bars, dumbbells, a pipe, a broom stick, whatever you have, use it. and how much should be exercising? quantity, quality, what s important? make it a daily thing, whether it s a walk or a flight of stairs. it doesn t only have to be with what you do in the gym, but i say five days a week for 25 minutes is a great start. lady gaga, those abs of her, killer, those are amazing. this here was at the vma awards. which, who could forget that performance? we worked out just before she went on stage. you did? why? confidence. confidence. body confidence. when you re wearing a costume like that, you need to feel good. what do you do with her? heather s going to show us how to get abs like that. the first thing is a basic crunch. everyone s seen this. let s start with a crunch. now, we can do things to ad variety without adding equipment and intensity. a reverse crunch, grab behind her head the legs. now she s doing the opposite. we can combine these into a double crunch. do them together, hands behind your head and now you re doing it in both ways. and he can do this on the bed, on the floor, on the carpet. and i always thought no matter how much crunches you do, it won t help with the definition. is it more about diet than exercise? you hit the nail on the head. it s not just about the ab exercises. it s mainly about eating the right foods and burning the fat on top of the ab and if you re dancing a lot like lady gaga, that s going to help you, too. a lot, yes. now over here from the abs, we ve moved over to alicia keys yes. who you work out with as well, and she s got that incredible tone in her back, right? i think a back is really important to be strong and sexy, no matter what you re wearing. it s sort of the stability of your whole upper back and your whole torso. how you carry yourself, the posture. and she s at the piano a lot, too. and she s upright and looking regal. now we have a pullover. here we have sharon. sharon is working her wing muscles. you know, if you re wearing something that s strapless and want to make sure nothing is hanging out of the sides. this is a simple exercise. she s using a bar. it can be a broomstick, a pipe, dumbbells, whatever you ve got. something with a little weight, though. this has a little weight. this has a little weight, yes. reach back all the way. now she ll transition from this into a standing back row. underhand grip works the place behind the blades. this is an important exercise. a lot of us forget to work out the back. how important is it to keep that in perspective when working out? it s essential to prevent neck injuries, back injuries, and it s a natural chest lift, which men and women both like. thank you, shan. now, over here, vanessa williams is a client of yours as well, and she is ageless, timeless, gorgeous. what are her secrets? classiest woman in the world, okay? and she has the arms to go with it. yes. this is a stone crusher or a barbell tricep extension. you can do thez with dumbbells, barbells. simple exercise. bring the bar down to the forehead, back up again. transition to a bar curl. arms down all the way. by the way, this woman has two children. i don t know where they came from yes, but she s a runner, too, though, so that helps. that helps, yes. yes. great. over here, legs. we ve got legs. jessica simpson certainly has the legs. you work out with her a lot. yep. how does she get those legs? jessica looks great in the cut-off jean shorts. this is one of our favorite exercises. this is a step-over. you don t necessarily need a bench. it can be a piano table, anything, a milk carton. up and over. like a nice, high curb. exactly. transitioning into a dead lift. we re going to grab the bars. one hand under, one hand over. just having like a long bar is probably a good piece of equipment if you were going to make an investment, right? absolutely. this one i designed for my clients, but you can get a pipe at a hardware store. that s great. harley pasternak, ladies, thank you for working out for us. work out for me while you re at it. thank you. coming up next, the team wedded to perfection, a low-cost, high-impact party table. every week on tlc s wedded to perfection, wedding planners extraordinaire, the husband-and-wife team of josh brooks and june lee take us behind the scenes to show us how they turn events into spectacles, and that is one definitely there. and we ve got them this morning. good morning. good morning, ann. here s the thing, a lot of us don t want to spend a lot of money, but we also want to make a big splash. what s your best advice on how to get started? well, i think we have a table presentation here, and it talks about high-impact, low-cost, because we all want that. we all want as much as we can for our dollars today, especially. okay, let s look at this table, because this table definitely has high-impact. you guys have done some really extraordinary i mean, the idea that you would put these huge, huge leaves really makes me come to this table and think, wow, this is something something big is going to happen here. right. to me, what s really fantastic about this, each one of these leaves only cost about $5, and anybody can just put them in a tall vase. it s tall, it s slender, and you only need three to four. so, that s between $15 to $20 for a big impact like that. i think that s phenomenal. and what s really also cool is because this is glass, josh, you can be able to see your friends. it s not like you re being blocked from them. right. you can see through it. we also like to place them between the seats so it doesn t block the view. another important part, we like to use rectangular tables because the goal is to try to keep people as close together. so if you re sitting here, you can actually have a conversation with five to six different people as opposed to being limited just to the person to your left or right. i m just trying to break it down, because first of all, i m thinking, wow, something great is going to happen here, but you ve also mixed and matched in terms of the dishes. i noticed that this place setting over here looks different from this one, looks different from that one. so, what s the thinking behind this variation? even though you ve maintained color themes. exactly. to me, even at weddings, i want it to feel like people s dinner parties. so, it shouldn t feel like all matchy-match, and i think it s more interesting when you can mix and match. so, it s not just the plates, it s the stemware, the flower. the ribbon is incredibly affordable. buy the ribbon and tie it around a napkin and that makes it special. exactly. not everybody have a full set of 12 that s matching. things break. so here it s much more forgiving, but also interesting. but you also created symmetry, because you didn t do it hodgy podgy. exactly. what s your best advice on that, josh? in terms of sympathy? yeah. you don t want it to look so eclectic, like you threw things down. but yet, when things are different, it keeps the table look really interesting, and it actually stays interesting for a longer time because you keep picking up different details throughout the dinner, so. speaking of details, i m going to step over here, because this is interesting. you have these electric candles out of here. i ll get out of the way. it s pretty cool. these are i mean, we did this before and we get such a high response from it. it s basically a mirror with candles, two of my favorite things. so, when i put it together, i went crazy for them. and what s nice about it is, although you only have 12 tiny little tea lights, it looks like you ve got thousands and i love the high-impact and drama of that. this is a great table for having a great conversation. would we have spent a lot of money on this? this is a very affordable table. like how much, about? this table with the tablecloth and all the elements is no more than $150. you ve got to be kidding. obviously not the flatware and glasses, but all the decorative stuff. thank you so much. thank you so much. thanks for having us. you c catch wedded to perfection on tlc friday nights at 10:00/9:00 central time. coming up next, another woman who knows how to throw a party. paula deen. uh-oh, look, she s got suze orman next to her. announcer: today s kitchen is brought to you by chili s. back by a limited time, three courses, two people, $20. this morning in today s kitchen, breakfast treats from one of the hottest chefs around, paula deen, talking coffee cake coffee style. paula just caused our stage manager leslie to have a heart attack. i was going to check my lipstick and my hair. you look good. you look good. so, you re cooking up this coffee cake tonight at the food network i am. okay, i didn t know what i was making tonight, but it will be good, i can tell you. it s new york city food and yes. what the heck was that? what is in here? what the heck? who was that? oh, my goodness! can y all see? look what is he doing in here? that guy just does he work here? no, he doesn t. that s the best part! anyway he doesn t have a gun, does he? no, i don t think so! anyway, what are we making? pull out our knives! what are we making here, paula? nerves, that s what we re making, nerves, nervous. go ahead. is he from this country? i don t know. so all right, so, anyway is this like regular dough? this is a canned biscuit now. all right. and look here. you ve got some cream cheese yes. and i ve got some cream cheese. we re going to put a dollop in there and we re going to seal it up [ laughter ] we re going to seal it up just like this. all right. just like this. so, you ve got it all sealed up. yes. now look, we ve got sugar, we ve got orange zest. right. we ve got some nuts. mm-hmm. and we re going to shake this all together just like that. yeah, right. this is so good, al. and so simple. it s kind of like oh, everything i do is simple. mm-hmm. all right, so, look here. you dip that in the butter? we re going to drop our biscuits down in butter, y all. uh huh, i like that. and then we re going to put it in here. and so you dredge it in this? yes, krdredge it in that. and then, there we go. now we re going to put the sealed side down and we re going to stand them up in there. right. and you keep going around? you keep going around. how long we got? how long we got? two minutes. we re good. all right. let me dump our i ve got one ready for you here, al. you bake it according to- 30 to 35 minutes. and i know that you re always on the go. oh, look at that! look it there. oh, man. and look at this. now, this is just confectionary sugar and orange juice, y all. whicis our camera? i can t see y all. there it is. okay, here we go. all right. now, look it here. i m looking. is he still back there? yeah, he is. [ laughter ] let s give him a little cake. here, have a little cake. have a little cake, john. i really enjoy he just didn t want to ruin your interview oh, so you do work here! yeah, he does. well, here! anybody else want cake? no we ve got to mention, you re going to be you re at the 2009 food network new york city wine and food yes, i am. and you re going to be cooking with your sons. yes, and you re so sweet. my sons are going to be here she s putting more butter on my piece no, this is cream cheese. oh. come on. oh, i m sorry, i m carb-free. sorry, paula, i m not going to have any. feed some more to these guys. but you know what? can i tell you something? his body was covered in sweat, he was so stressed wow, i could have gone all day without hearing that. hey, look, suze orman wants some cake! suze orman s in here. come on in, suze. you thought he was some crazy guy back there. i m from savannah, georgia, guy back there. i m from savannah, georgia, where everything s just my job is a buyer for tj maxx. i m a shopper at heart. i have a passion for finding a deal. i do my homework to figure out what s going to be the next best trend. our customers know their stuff. it s fashion direct to them. we re dealing with the designers. after that it goes straight to our customers. i get the best deal, so they get the best savings! my goal is to evolve our customers from fashionistas. to maxxinistas! tj maxx. let us make a maxxinista out of you! our time right now is 9:56. 62 degrees. lot of nice sunshine. beautiful blue sky on this friday, the 9th day of october, 2009. in the news 4 today, the columbus day weekend is here. if you plan to ride metrorail, there are some station closures. the waterfront and car kifs stations will shut their doors at 10:30 tonight and will not reopen again until after the holiday on tuesday morning. in addition, there will be no green line service between the navy yard and gowery place stations this weekend. let s getd a check on our forecast. it will feel like summer today. temperatures warming pretty nicely into the low 60s. lots of sunshine. 62, germantown. 63 degrees in college park. 64 degrees in kensington, maryland. a summer s day as we watch the mercury rise into the low 80s today. we will stay dry today. showers return after midnight. that cold front makes its way in. showers for tomorrow morning. highs in the low 70s and clearing. on the capital beltway, construction crews are out and about. interloop as we make the trip from annandale up to i-66, separate work zones slow you down. 395 northbound all cleared out. outbound, we are looking might fine as well. tonight on news 4 at 5:00, it s christmas in october. it s never too early to dro over the niemann marcus christmas book. from nbc news, this is today, with kathie lee gifford and hoda kotb. live from studio 1-a in rockefeller plaza. thank god it is friday, october 9th. glad you are with us. a big weekend coming up. i m excited the weekend is here, period. seems like a long week. yes, also suze orman is lurking. makes me nervous. she will be on today. she s always one of our favorite guests. let me tell you what she does brilliantly, she underlines what we need to know. butters should lurking at the moment. she is. we love it when she s here. congratulations to president obama who this morning it was announ announced he won a nobel peace prize early if his presidency. people are like, what, he won? what has he done yet? what did they say it was based on? based on the global tone he has set. in other words, there s talk of climate change, talk of scaling back nuclear weapons, there s more kind of open dialogue with nations. we always talk about tone. i think they are giving him that for tone, but we ll see what actually gets accomplished in our terms. hopefully great stuff ahead. an awful lot of tone going on in the studio today. a lot of buzzing. i don t know about you, but with all this swine flu now phones are ringing. with all the swine flu going on, people are getting uncomfortable. i know myself when i see someone cough thank you. you were rude this morning. i look at them poor jenna. jenna wolfe goes no, she hacked up a lung. she hacked up a lung. you gave her the daggers. you know why? don t you feel that way? now people are coughing, now we re what? you have to put a disclaimer on it, it s just allergies, people, i m fine. i m not sick. i know, but some people are sic people are nervous about the flu and the swine flu. so they will call in hopefully at the first little sniffle and not come into work? no i just think i don t mean to do it. you did it, my gosh. remind me never to get sick around you. imagine you re on a plane, someone next to you is hacking. you haven t yet got your flu shot and you re thinking, oh, no what will happen. it was me in california a couple weeks ago. i had that bronchitis that would not go away. i was long since not contagious, but you can t stand up and tell the whole world. you do, now we re getting very defensive. we don t mean to be. people still try to shake hands even when they see you have a brace on. we have come up with a new id. thefrench decided no more kissing on both cheeks. everyone is try doing something to prevent the spread of the flu. we were trying to figure out how to say hello without shaking hands which is how you transfer germs. if you look at h1n1, if you look at them as letters, it looks like heiny to me. all right. that s what made me think of this. here is how we all will say will you not spread germs through your spanx that ain t going to happen, instead of hi, hoda, yeah. how are you? hi, mark, how are you? everybody is doing the bump and grind and saying hello. that s easy. when you say bye, bye! i like that it s called the hieny bump. you have a window you re very rough today. this is a rickety studio. hannah montana is in the news. she has made a big announcement. she decided she will not twitter. think of the big news stories today, president obama wi a nobel peace prize and hannah montana will no longer twitter. she says her boyfriend doesn twitter who is her boyfriend. i didn t know she had one. that s her father, not to be confused. right. exactly. though, you kn no, i don t mean that. i mean remember when stop. i like these people. i like them a lot. i m not casting apspersions, bu there were those pictures before. she decided not twitter anymore because her boyfriend didn t want her to. i get, like, there s a lot of people sharing information about their families before family members or boyfriends find out about it. they re twittering and tweeting all day long, when you get home you sort of already have talked it out with friends and others. i think the twitt thing is an awesome idea if you are trying to market something. but just i got up i m on my way to the bathroom, i m having a cup of coffee. how narcissistic are we to think that anybody finds that the least bit interesting. i don t get that. i know. you don t twitter, you don t do any of that. there s good purposes for all this stuff, it s when remember, we have become a post-human society. when we are more comfortable with machinery than we are with one another we have problems. deborah norville is coming on today. thank the lord deborah is here. it s a book about respect and how there s a lack of everything from manners to all kinds of things. yeah. she s nailing it, don t you think? this is her second book based on that kind of subject, that s happening culturally to us. it s little by little. chisel, chisel, chisel. it s little things. you don t say please and thank you, it s on and on. next thing you know, your children are in rehab. that is what happens sometimes. we have talked about it recently, we showed a picture last week or we were going to of lindsay lohan coming out of her fashion show. i said i m terrified this girl isn t going to make it i remember interviewing her when she was 12 years old and she was in that daing movie the parent trap. she was brilliant young actress to go from that i feel like there s a michael jackson coming along, where everybody will cast aspersions later and say where were they? why didn t anybody get her into rehab. she was in paris or somewhere launching her fashion line. there are photos of her that are frightening. she looks 45 years old. she s just a kid, too. somebody, please, who loves her, take ahold of this young women and get her help, or else it s going to be the same thing all over again because nobody thinks it will happen to them. and it does. there s a list of phrases that people find annoying. whatever. whatever is number one. 47%. you know 25%. you know, people don t even realize they re saying you know. and any way it is what it is bothers you. i hate it is what it is. at the end of the day, that only had 2%. any way is a great one. any way is the end of a conversation. any way okay. you moved on. your mother does that to you all time. oh. bye-bye. that s the end? okay. you use whatever a lot. no, i don t. oh, yeah. oh, yeah. no i don t. let s go to the videotape. there s no tape. whatever. i know the story. whatever. something like that day. whatever. whatever. whatever. whatever. whatever. anyone else? oh, that s astonishing! busted! busted, missy! is that true? i guess the tape don t lie. i personally never noticed it, i adore you. but apparently some of the people around here have said that s hoda. tammy s that you. adam! you are going down. everybody is in the dark. all in the witness protection program. wait. wait. look at jack. look at this little boy sitting in the chair. look at little jack. can you get a shot of jack. why is little jack here? this is dana, who works in our offices. this is her little adorable nephew. why is he sitting on a chair. because he s cute, he s sitting on a chair and his favorite color is yellow. sarah, what s happening? we are talking about the most annoying phrases. dotty says her husband always says what s your status, and people says she hates it when people say shut up. or working, hardly working. teresa said duh. and kill two birds with one stone. who wanted to kill the first one any way. we will talk about the sea pink in front of us a little bit later. all the spa thing, it s adorable. it s great. coming up, two best friends that got ambushed on our plaza. we re back with the results of today s ambush makeovers. as always our ivillage contributor and jill martin swept through th crowd in search of ladies in waiting for a makeover. was a huge crowd out there. it was crazy. i have to tell you the hardest part of the job is no longer doing the makeover, it s picking the person. so many people come, they are desperate for a makeover. sometimes they test you, most of the time they re in tears. you walk away feeling like a heel. let s get started. these are two best friends. the first one is christy moss. her 51st birthday is tomorrow. she has two kids, eight grand kids. for the past 30 years she worked at a lighting company, sometimes working 12-hour ays, six days a week. her boss said if she did not cut her hair soon, she would sit on it and get in the way of her work. let s take a listen to their story. you really haven t cut this hair in 15 years? no, my son is a barber, he s trimmed it, but nothing. 15 years. i know your daughter really wants to you have that ambush makeover she will never speak to me again if i don t have this done. we will do t pamper you and ditch this purse. okay. you ready to go. i m ready. oh, yes. she is ready. so, again, christy s best friend will come out later. first we ll look at kristy before. this is her before picture. let s see the new you. it s going to be good. oh. oh, yes! hello. hello. you look hot. now, your friends are going to react to you in a minute. you re going to see yourself. are you ready? yeah. it s right behind you, turn around! oh, my gosh. you look terrific. you are beautiful. turn this way. she can t hold herself in. my gosh. tell us about the hair. when they loveto look in the mirror, that s a good sign. 15 years, actually this is probably about 12. congratulations. you look so much prettier with shorter hair. layered it around the face, gave her face shape. i lightened it. yes. it took less than an hour to do this whole makeover. i can see. it was quick today, because we were on earlier, so we were rushing to get everything done. these are all basics she needs in her wardrobe, the skirt with the spanx built in. the jacket is ann taylor. we gave her that belt from nine west. you stand there. turn backwards. face that way. lea harris is her friend, she s 48 from york, pennsylvania. leann begged us to make over kristy and we ambushed her as well. her favorite past time is checking out the trends at yard sales and goodwill. she is trying to make a life change and training in carpentry this will give her the confidence she needs to start over again. let s listen to her story. you re going to get a makeover also. tell us why you want one. i ve had the same look forever. chris and i came here for this. it s her birthday, we re excited to get this done. we will make her look hot, and you want a hot date, too, is that right. yeah, i ve been single for a little while now. yeah. we re both single and here in new york to have fun. all right all you men out there there s two hot ladies on the way. are you ready to go. yeah. definitely. can t wait. all right. we don t have to wait much longer. let s take one last look at leann before. come on out. wow! wow! my gosh. okay. you have to see yourself. turn yourself around, sweetheart. look in the back. wow. there s a lot of self love going on today. in a good way. what i will do, you have to close your eyes for a second, okay? close your eyes. am i doing this right? i back you up, christine. come on, sweetheart. on three. camera in position. hold on. no looking. can you guys see? one, two, three, look at each oth other. my gosh. look at you! mifrnlg my gosh! you look beautiful. tell us about the hair. the first thing we did, she had her hair blond. she had sallow skin, yellow hair and sallow skin don t go together. i made it darker. accented it with the right shades of lipstick. look at you. younger, beautiful. the outfit, wow. are you wondering why you didn t do this 15 years ago? hard to imagine i ll be 52 tomorrow. the jacket is great because you can wear it as a dress and outerwear. to accent wait the waist, we put a belt with it. you get t-shirts. up next, what fashionistas have to have this fall. not only is rachel zoe the stylist to some of hollywood s hottest celebrities but she has a whole lot of other stuff. including a clothing line and a website called the zoereport, all while wrapping up her second season on the rachel zoe proje project on bravo. there are going to be some changes happening at rachel zoe inc. rachel is making herself sick. she has to relinquish some of the day-to-day control. so i m going to have to take over the business side of rz inc. yes, he s in charge. no! don t let him! don t do it. it will be a mistake. he s the man i trust nomost the world. this show completely exploded. what happened? it came on one season, then boom. so nervous. i don t know. i think that it demystifies a bit of what goes on in the industry and what we all do as stylists, designers. really, i think, provides an education. it must make you feel a little vulnerable what you are saying is do you like me? are you interested in me and my life? it s been put to the test, right. the idea is that if people love it for whatever reason that they watch it, that makes me happy. okay. i think at least when they watch it they get a better idea of who i really am. if they don t like me after that, that s fine. rejection is always better if it s on an honest basis. absolutely. your weight was an issue for a while. what was that about. i believe it s media wanting to hold on to something and trying to find a reason, an explanation for something that they re seeing within the industry. for some reason that got put on me. i don t have an issue with it. we have a clip which clears it up. you re going to see a doctor. let s look at this. i don t have time for this. i don t have time for vertigo. i can have something for five days, but it needs go away. i can t have something that will last. vertigo is not just vertigo, it s a consequence of something else. my god. okay. great. i m being punished by my body. i need to you decrease the stress yo life. perfect. how do you do that? it s very difficult. it is. there s a lot going on. i mean, i m launching my line for qvc tomorrow and there s a problem, i love every element of my job. you are also maximizing now while it s hot. yes, and i m having so much fun. i m so in love with what i do, and i try figure out a million different ways to do what i do. a lot of people do reality shows, some regret it at the end. are you glad these cameras are following you around. most of the time i m not aware that they re there. i don t. it s extremely ard. it s extremely exhausting, but i really enjoyed it as well. we have to scoot what is going on here? presents! you guys can switch if you don t if you like the other one better. i like the big box. part of my jewelry line for qvc. oh. launching tomorrow. beautiful. these are my two favorite pieces. that s the necklace. you can switch them. thank you very much. say hello to everyone down at qvc. your show airs monday night on bravo at 10:00. the first batches of the swine flu vaccine are here. we are in maryland where students are lining up to get them. i m joe krebs. ahead, a midday world recognition as president obama receives a major award. a great successor a lunar letdown. what nasa was able to find when it blasted a rocket into the moon. those stories and more coming up on news 4 midday. i m a buyer for tj maxx. i m a shopper at heart. we re dealing hands on with the designers. after that, it goes straight to our customers. i get the best deal, so they get the best savings. our customers go from fashionistas. to maxxinistas! tj maxx. . we re back on this friday with today s money and how to handle the finances when love comes into the picture. he spends, she spends, often it s very, very different. so what is a cup toll do? cnbc s suze orman has some thoughts. you throw in the sexual aspect of things, it s a mess. it s a mess. how did you start on this? this is one of the few things on life that is free. this gets complicated when it comes to couples, often one person is really good with money, the other part of the couple isn t. so they just say let s let him do it or let s let her do it. here s how it is, everybody. women take care of the househd expenses. whether they re good with money or bad with money. they take care of them. really? yes, even to this day. the men still we don t. who does for you? my husband. what else does he take care of. everything. let s talk about this now. all of a sudden something happens to him. he s no longer on this planet. what are you going to do. follow him into eternity i suppose. it s all taken care of. let s talk in general about everybody, because we have a different ituation. what s interesting, if you don t have accountants or people paying your bills or all of that, what happens is women are the ones who are doing everything today. do you know that 50% of the women working today are the primary wage earner in their family. whoa. so women are not only making more money, but they are coming home and taking care of the children, taking care of the family and taking care of the family finances. paying the bills, making sure everything is okay. the men on the other hand is still maybe bringing in money, but that s about all he s doing. we hear so many stories of guys that are helping. we don t want to man bash. i m not bashing men, but we have women that are watching. now, listen, men have it rht. i m not saying they have it wrong. you would love somebody to do that all for you. men get what the purpose of money is they get that they need their own accounts and need to take care of themselves. all i m asking, women, we need do that as well. women need to share the experiences of paying finances and the checks together with their should women have should we have a separate account or joint accounts? do you not have your own account? i do now, but, you know not because she wanted it. well here s the sometimes life happens, you know. all the time life happens. all the time lifehappens. she s scaring me. yeah. but don t you wish you had had your own account way back when so when something went wrong you didn t have to wonder were you going to have money? even a man, women can go into accounts and wipe them out as well. you each need your own accounts. how do you work out the bills andstuff then? you have one account that is a joint account that you put equal percentages in to pay the bills. if you havene account, you write a check, you forget to record it he forgets to make a deposit and forgets to record it do you think having one checking account with having two people working putting money in work? it doesn t. you still have do it for the joint account? usually you sit down together and use that account to pay bills. you don t take on money do that and this. if he wants go fishing, he uses his account. she wants that bag, she uses her account. of course. there s nothing wrong with that. that leads to a healthy relationship with yourself, money and guess what? then you stay together. en until your account runs dry and you dip into the joint account. we love when you come on. you have to come more often. all right. for more advice go to her show saturdays on cnbc, 9:00, and they replay it at mid night eastern time. up next, we will talk with deborah norville. thanks to aaretha franklin, we know how to spell it, but what is r-e-s-p-e-c-t what is it. and whe did it go? debra norville has written all about it. deborah. hi. i love that song. great to see you again. love the picture. just saying. that s a great, great picture. that s going to be my publicity shot for the rest of time. if you get one good one, you keep it forever. you get all good ones. you started this whole thing r with your first book a couple years ago. i m sure since your first book on gratitude. we have not seen the world change for the better since. no, on the contrary, it s going the other direction. 79% of americans think rudeness and disrespect has become a serious problem. yet, look at what the big news was today. president obama received the nobel peace prize. to me, that s so affirmative because what it says is that mr. obama s respectful way of trying to engage the world, including our enemies, his way of trying to open the door so all the parties come to the table to talk about health care and the other issues is being endorsed by one of the most respected panels out there the nobel prize committee. will it make a difference, though? i think it will. it gets people talking. the fact that 79% of us thinks it s a problem, is a good thing. we see this every day, with the kanye west, serena people with public displays of disrespect. it s hard to teach your kids that this is not the way to go. it s helpful that people show their backsides like that. it gives us those teaching opportunities. of course you can agree with the president but you don t shout out while the president is speaking. disagree with what he says but respect the office. it s a great opportunity to say how could it have been done differently? how could representative wilson expressed himself as disagreeing with what the president was saying? how could serena williams have handled that call in a less aggressive manner and what was kanye west thinking? he has gone off to take a rest. why do you think it s taken this direction. one thing is the pace of life is so fast. 9 out of 10 of us say life is going too quick. what i m try doing with the power of respect is lay out the data that shows that when you treat people with respect, when you let them speak up, when you leet them feel they re important to the operation, that you actually are bettered. you see benefits from it. if you re running a business and do you that with your workers, your workers are 300% less likely to quit on you. if they are not quitting on you, you saved there. more importantly, studies have found when you do that with workers, tell them you re doing a good job. let them know, hey, kathie lee did a great interview yesterday, let kathie lee think, hey, i m important. will you have more creative ideas. it s validating people. everybody needs that. also in your own home. having respect for each other in the home. it begins. you were talking with suze how to handle finances in the home, what that boils down to is respecting the other party s ability to make wise decisions. by sharing your money you are saying i respect you won t be stooped with it. respect is having the conversation. you have ever talked to frank, for instance, how would you like me to treat you? you think you know how he wants to be treated, he thinks he s treating you the right way, but if you have not had that conversation, you might be getting it wrong. so much good stuff in this book. it s called the power of respect. get it. we love you to piece and respect you very much. coming up, medical advice and questions you need to ask if you find out you have breast cancer. we are continuing our special series looking at breast cancer today. here s the scenario. you have just been diagnosed with breast cancer. after you take a deep breath, what do you ask your doctor? dr. christy funk, a surgical breast specialist founder of pink lotus breast center in beverly hills has the answers. i think in the beginning some of us sprint through trying to get a doctor fast. the take a breath thing is important. it s not growing in a week or two weeks. that first cancer cell probably mutated five to eight years before, but now that you know it s there, there feels like a sense of urgency, but be secure in your plan. why hasn t it been found if it has been mutating that long. a one centimeter cube of cancer has 1 billion cancer cells. the first cell years ago could never be detected. the questions are, first, ask what stage am i? right. so there are four five stages of breast cancer. zero through four. the first is carcinoma encito. they are stuck in the cell and can t get out. stage one, they have burst through the duct wall but the size is under two centimeters. stages two and three they are subdivisions, depends on how big the tumor is within the breast and whether or not it went to lymph nodes and how many. there s different stages of two and three. stage four is what we call meta static, those cancer cells have left the nodes and are out in the body, liver, lung, brain and bone are the most common. and ask your doctor, secondly what are your treatment options? yes, there are three main treatments. surgery, radiation and medications like chemothery or anti-hormonal therapy. within each category, women have choices. frequently they are not given a choice but are told this is what you need. research has shown us that within each category the choices that you make have the same cure rate. so it s because of this research, and we are always needing funds, that s why you have your super cute forward komen we need money for research. so one question really question in each category, for surgery, do i need a lumpectomy or mastectomy. under radiation, can i have the new five-day treatment of radiation. this is the same as the whole breast radiation, six and a half weeks, every day. what a break through. start on monday, end on friday. is it insurance or something? no, insurance pays equally for both. but it s more intensive. really you have to be over 45 and your tumor has to fit certain criteria. can you change your treatment in the middle? . no last question, what s next. what s next in the treatment. what should you expect. i tell women expect to live this is curable. stage zero and one has a 98% five-year survival rate. anyone who is diagnosed with cancer and is alive is a survivor. that s mo and more women all the time. thank you very much. thank you. great advice. when we come back, it is do you like that or not? we re back and giada is not happy. giada de laurentiis, we always love to have her here. she s a featured chef in an event this weekend, the new york wine and food festival. giada is hosting a meatball madness party. are we invited? you are always invited. always. fake invitations. fine. cloudy with a chance of meatballs. chicken meatballs, actually. which is a little different. this festival is really fun in new york. it s only the second year we re doing it. food network is a part of it, so we re all a part of it. paula and i and everybody else. what happens with meatball madness, there are 30 chefs and we are all competing for who has the best meatball. what a claim to fame. it s a big deal. ask my husband. he loves meatballs. eggs, parmesan cheese. parsley? yes, chopped parsley. bread crumbs. all in. plain. ketchup. just a dollop. just a little to sweeten it up. you have to keep these meatballs nice and moist. milk. whole milk. just a teaspoon. just a teaspoon. mix it altogether. mm-hmm. eventually, after you mix it together, it looks like this. okay. you want to do it? don t do it. we giffords play hurt. go ahead. so bad. now what? she is being helpful. she doesn t want to do it. she doesn t? no. she doesn t. go ahead, giada. i make them into mini meatballs. can i do that? you can scoop it with an ice cream scoop or melon baller. cute. what i do is she s having fun cooking. what s so fun with little meatballs. giada is looking at us like we don t know what we re doing. i know you don t like to cook. she loves to eat. stop. i m trying to get her to come on saturday. so bad. oil in the pan, and then i brown them all in the pan. do i use this? no. that s all we have. technically, usually with these pans i like to use wood. how long do you cook these for. five minutes. they cook quick and stay nice and moist. and they are better for you than using beast. you can use turkey, veal. anything you wanted this is a lighter way to eat meatballs. okay. then i add cherry tomatoes and chicken stock. yum. what s going on? you cook this down. what are you doing? is it cooked yet? what is happening? wait a second what are you doing. just one. you can t. he keeps coming into the cooking segments. forget about it. forget about it. get me out of here. catch. open up wide. there you go. what? come here, don t leave us. okay. so then the meatballs are cooked. the tomatoes cook down. he s staying. i told him. i didn t even get introduced. look. you don t care. we don t care. whatever. i do care. that is good. isn t that good? basil. parmesan cheese. this is delicious. fresh mozzarella. look. he s helping. you are being very helpful. look at how beautiful that is. the colors of the italian flag. it is. looks fantastic. nice, hoda. we have to go. we have to run. have a great weekend. that s yours. next week,