>> exactly. >> psychosis. it tends to be crazy. so i'm someone who prefers, actually and finds a lot more love in family and friends and my child. it's one of those that yes, it's great to be in love but there is this idea that that is what happiness where happiness is. and i can tell you as a divorcee that you can find happiness in all sorts of love and this treasure, this love that follows you throughout life, no matter what your romantic situation is. >> it's true when they look at why are happy people happy, one of the things they have more relationships, we need to belong, we need to feel like we confide, we need to feel like we have long term intimate relat n relationsh relationships. just as important we need to be able to give support. so we need to feel like we're connected, that we're part of something bigger than ourselves and that we're exchanging love and attention with other people. this is absolutely crucial. >> but part of what i love about what you said this interconnection of multiple relationship, a web of