and i have to start giving something up. so that really stuck with me when i thought about it in that way. and thought what would i be willing to give up? would i give away my house, my money, everything away in the name of equality. and it made me think about all the things i've done in my career that haven't bip that thoughtful, that i've just kind of cashed checks and taken opportunities because they were available to me. and never really thinking how did i get where i am, what is responsible for that? does my color of skin have to play a part in it, and it absolutely does. i thought white privilege was something over there, you know, for rich families that wept to harvard and yale, you know, the rock fellers that type of thing. i didn't think it applied to me because my father was a used car dealer. it completely applied to me. >> very important story about your own life and your boyfriend. he got mixed up with drugs, you would be stopped by police.