life you remember. i remember when i was 15 years old on july 2nd, i met a wonderful young man named spencer iii. i fell madly in love and we lost him. it's july 2nd to everybody else, but to people that love someone, it's a day they are sorry he's gone. i send my love to his family today. >> sweet. there is a lot of news that happened over the weekend. first and foremost, i guess, was the tom cruise and katie holmes split. >> when something like that happens, boom. >> i saw it on twitter first where is now where i'm getting all my news. i work at nbc news, but i'm getting all my news at twitter. >> is there a chance it could be wrong news? >> it could be. i look for confirmation from other sources like tmz and what not. it was interesting. i guess they had been together six years. >> they had a child and got married, which is what everybody is doing, by the way, congratulations to adele. they've been married five years. you know what's fascinating about this? he was married two times before. each time he left those woman, i understand. that's what we hear and they were 33 years old. katie is 33, but she is the one this time who filed for divorce. >> he claims he was blind-sided. they have two residences. she figured filing in new york would be better for her and she hired a couple of high-profile attorneys. one is the christie brinkley one. >> it's going to be a big battle. i don't think it's about money. she has an iron-clad prenuptial. it will be about this little girl suri. tom is very, very much a part of the whole scientology world and wants to raise his child inside scientology just like i want to raise my children in my faith. i understand that. i never bought and maybe others didn't, as well, even though she said she converted to scientology, you never sensed she was actually a real believer. i often say when somebody says i converted for my husband, i usually think to myself, then you didn't believe in anything to begin with really. nobody could get me to change my faith. i wouldn't convert it for everything in the world if somebody comes along and you so i'll change from this to that, did you believe in it to begin with? i don't know. i have scientology friends. they are lovely, lovely people, but there is a tie to it that is extremely strong. it's strong and it seems strange to an awful lot of people. >> some reports are saying, and i don't know what to believe. this is from the new york "post" which the headline is "kat trap." he wanted to send his child suri off to a camp, called the sci-org where the top tier of people are. at 6 years old you go unsupervised, according to this paper. >> 6-year-olds unsupervised sounds wrong. >> rupert murdoch tweeted a few things. >> he doesn't care hoe offends. >> "scientology is back in the news. very weird cult, but big, big money involved with tom cruise or number three in hierarchy." watch katie holmes and scientology develop. something creepy about these impeachment later he was tweeting about backlash. tweeting is dangerous, by the way. >> you can tweet anything at any time. >> when you think about what he's been through in the last year with the news of the world, he's been called tough stuff, too. the beautiful thing about this country, we have the right to an opinion. if you share it, we also have the right to let you know what they think of your opinion. that's democracy. >> tweeter is very knee-jerk. you can tweet something and wish you didn't. >> have you ever? >> i don't like when i misspell and i do. it's on the iphone. you look like a dummy. oh, how about some grammar? people are always judge judy. >> they spell grammar, g-r-a-m-m-e-r. >> people are so judgy. >> i tweet, but you know it's not me tweeting. i don't tweet. christine, would you tweet this for me? she goes, yes. and she tweets. i don't do that thing. >> your phone is so old, you can't do it on your phone. it is. it's one of the old ones. there's nothing against it. it works. >> here is the thing about my phone. my phone, which by my own admission is a dinosaur phone, it's a little flip -- last week christine's blackberry completely crashed and guess whose phone she had to use? mine never fails me. these new iphones, it's always going dead. she uses it so much it's good for about an hour. >> i've got to get the double charger. i have this. >> no. i say dinosaur. >> dinosaurs rule. we just gave a quick congrats to adele. >> we love her. she is amazing. what a year she had. >> her boyfriend is simon kaneki. they are having a baby. "i'm delighted to announce simon and i are expecting our first child together. i wanted you to hear the news from me. we are obviously over the moon and excited, but please respect our privacy." >> we will try. it's okay to send her love and appreciation, i'm sure and goodwill and all that good stuff. i was going to say something. i know what's going to happen. she's going to have this baby and those grammys are going to mean -- >> zero. >> yeah. a baby puts everything in perspective. i didn't even watch the emmys last weekend. forgot they were on. you think you want to watch, you want an emmy so badly. in all those years i never won be a emmy. 11 nominations and i never won. all of a sudden, i'm next to you and boom, boom, boom! >> three emmys. flee. >> my point being -- you know the funny part about that? >> you made your point. your point has been made. done, boom, boom, boom, done! >> i didn't remember we won the first year. there is a box sitting in my house the longest time. more wine. i finally opened up the box and it was the emmy with my name engraved. i went, oh, my gosh, it's been sitting here all week. >> big news in the olympics. >> besides our mug? >> yes. let's talk about our mugs, for $17 -- what are they, $14? >> $14, unless they've gone up because of demand. >> you have to look again. >> very cute. >> this is one of those, now the olympic trials, it's that time where everyone is hoping and praying they get into the olympic games. there was a great athlete last week in china. nastia luken. we watched her in beijing, rooting for her. she was going for a comeback. she was 22 years old. that's not old in real life. >> in gymnastics, it is. >> she was competing on the uneven bars. watch what happened. >> we should point out, as you can tell, she's okay. look what happens now. the crowd cheered her on. she gathered herself up. >> is that her father putting her back up? >> yes. her dad's the coach. look at this. >> wow. >> standing ovation. >> of course, what courage that takes. >> i got to tell you, that's her doing that makes her so much bigger to me than if she had just done it flawlessly. when you're down on your knees and you stand up. >> it's not the fall, it's who gets up. >> she didn't make the olympic team, we should say. >> she is a heroine. >> she is. mike phelps qualified to compete in eight events which means he could match his beijing. >> make it a nice sweet 16. >> remember that photo finish? two runners right there. >> vying for the third position in the track and field race. we didn't know who won. >> always looked like number 1. >> i thought it was when your chest cut it. >> then it's the one with the bigger boobies. i would have won that race. i had a shot. >> they decided to have a run-off. they are not going to do the flip of the coin. >> that's what two real hero was do. >> olympics ceremonies are going to be july 27th, but we are not going to be there. >> we are going to be right here. >> no, we are no. >> yes, we are. >> then we're not on for a couple of weeks. >> okay. somebody hasn't been asked to go. >> i'm fine with it. >> they were concerned about international incidents, if you know what i mean. apparently, there wasn't enough wine in london for us. >> if you've been to the beach, you probably noticed this, there are popping up in addition to the umbrellas and stuff, huge tents. one person finds it very offensive. >> one person we know is highly offended and she is taking photos of them and bringing them to work. >> she is nameless but it is joanne lamarka. she was at the beach. here is the thing. somebody else was at the beach in north carolina. they had the tents up but they were in the back. people set them up in the back. so they weren't obstructing everybody's view of the water. >> when people show up, they put two umbrellas and stake out a huge swath of beach for themselves, a shoe over here, a thing over there. i don't want someone sitting on top of me. i don't like the idea of spreading out like that. forget it. anyhoo, be nice at the beach. >> be nice everywhere we'll be nice to a couple of companies who picked our favorite things. this is called absolute green multipurpose cleaner. aroma therapy scent. it's $6.99. it smells like if you went to -- what's the name? >> lavender. crabtree and evelyn. >> stop it! i can't remember. i'm going blank. she went to this wonderful spa in -- >> canyon ranch. >> thank you. >> crabtree and evelyn. >> wanted everything to be clean. this is a bug spray that smells as if you're in canyon ranch. she was thinking of me because she knows how much i cuddle bambino and it would not be harmful to him. >> why would you spray him? >> i would spray myself so i don't get bitten and love on him. i would nuzzle him to my bosom and he won't get hurt. >> if you want a great read, this weekend, i picked the book. it's called "gone girl." if you buy this book or download it, be prepared to do nothing else but read it. it is juicy. it is almost "dateline," juicy, "gone girl." >> i love a good book recommendation. this is by john freida, the ocean wave texturizing spray. i think they discontinued this. i'm obsessed with this stuff. >> it's a simple thing, miss technology. >> maybe if you talk about it, they'll put it back on. do you love it, kathie? >> not really. not everything has to come back. >> you spray it, it moisturizes and gives it a tussled look. >> is she still talking? >> love you, baby sara. >> up next, how to survive and thrive. challenges. >> i'm not going to cry. the latest hollywood gossip on today's buzz. guess who is in the house? sending your children off to college is an important rite of passage for you and them. how do you survive the challenges of an empty nest after they all left home? three moms are here to share words of wisdom. >> karen rubenstein is the author of "beyond the mommy years." karen casden is the blogger for the huffington post and christy miller is author of "fun without dick and jane." >> you write from personal experience, right? >> absolutely. >> when did this happen to you? >> a couple of years ago. i was so freaked out about it, i wrote a book on it. that's how upset i was. when you walk past the room and the door, there is nobody in that room. i couldn't put away the placemat on the kitchen table. >> you are pathetic. >> i was pathetic. on the other hand, that's the grief stage which i found in my research. you get over that grief stage. >> how long did it last for you? >> not very long. >> you relied on friends. that helped you through the tough stuff. >> i did. what i want to tell you to do with kathie, take her by the shoulders, ask her to visual israel her looking into cassidy's eyes and ask her, is there anything on this earth, temperal or physical that can separate you from your daughter. you know she will be there forever. >> i'm going to write a song. >> after a week goes by and she can't get past it? slap her in the face and say, snap out of it. >> i've got a huge project this fall. it could not be better timing. i am going to be so involved in it, i couldn't be more grateful for it. she will be happy to be away from me. >> i was at college night with my oldest child. one of the mothers said i don't know what to do when he leaves home. i was thinking, i can think about 500 things. so i wrote a book. in doing a lot of research, i read a lot. there are a lot of empty nest moms support groups. i understand there's grieving and stuff, but i also feel like maybe too much is being made now of the grieving and the loss. it's all this negativity. >> you raise them to let them leave, right? >> it's our job. >> there is something sick about not letting them go. >> the grief fast turns into relief, then there's finally joy. >> what do you do with marriage after that? >> about half of them actually get better. suddenly, you have time for yourself. there is nobody around distracting you and making you do stuff. men don't say the relationship changes when a child is born. >> it goes back to the good old days. we are all a little older and grayer. >> you don't want to do those things. >> you rediscover what made you fall in love with your spouse to begin. with. >> or you find out you have nothing in common. who is this guy that we decided to have babies and all we talked about the last 18 years are kids. >> you said you're going to have a longer relationship with your kid as an adult than you did as a child. you said that. that is an important point, isn't that? >> you're always going to be a mother. you're not an intense full-time mother. you're a part-time mother. that is a good thing. >> problems come when you try to be and you're not letting them grow. >> there is nothing more rewarding than watching your grown child take what you taught him or her and pass it on to a grandchild. i have a 1-year-old grandchild. watching your child parent is a pleasure beyond words. >> if they're a great parent. >> exactly. >> but there are trends now. kids are going off to college. now i'm hearing a lot of, we are looking at investment property two blocks from the kid's dorm. hello, you people, no, let your child go. you go find some investment property somewhere else. >> wrong time to say i got a place in l.a.? it's just a little rental, all right? don't judge. >> not that close to cassidy. >> is it in walking distance? >> sort of. >> do you have her on your gps. >> that's funny you think i have a gps. >> quick take-away advice for parents p. >> look at this as you've done a great job. pat yourself on the back for the success. be joyful for them because they'll be joyful. >> when you drop your last child off at college, make sure your sunglasses are as big as bread and butter plates. >> remember, the rest of your life is about to start. we have a whole new, now that we live so much longer, we have a whole extra chapter in life. >> i love in rediscovering your love you get pregnant and start all over again. >> thanks, ladies. >> thank you all so much. >> still ahead, what were the big stories in tinseltown this weekend? take a big swig of coffee. we have buzz with rob shuter. ♪ [ male announcer ] to perform your best, training's gotta be a lifelong passion... 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