very pompous. i don't know. he seemed fake to me. >> that night over dinner, beth's brother kept asking tom toolan what he did for a living. >> and he couldn't really tell me to my satisfaction what he did. >> what was he saying? >> oh, i'm an investor. this, that. well what do you invest in? he couldn't really give me an answer. >> beth's brother said toolan was drinking during dinner but not to excess. afterwards toolan and beth headed back to his apartment, and on the way home beth told friends something shocking happened. she had seen him drunk. she had seen him angry. but she had never seen her new boyfriend like this. >> he had put her into a headlock and was walking down the street saying, i want to beat your head in. she shared with me, i went back to his apartment to just get my palm pilot and cell phone and get out of there, and i wonder if i shouldn't have just left that stuff behind and left at that moment.