>> at this point under the law, no. >> reporter: what's more, lewis says states split their medicaid dollars between the poor and people with disabilities. she says it all adds up to a system that can't take that much weight. >> i think that the programs are overstressed with the numbers. i mean it's why we see wait lists. >> reporter: is that the bottom line, we just don't have the budgets? >> we have not addressed the need for long-term services and support in this country. >> reporter: and lewis says she understands fighting for the resources that do exist is hard on families. she says the federal government mike will move to florida for his job alone. what does it mean to the family? >> it'll be long distance. and it leaves nick and my daughter and i here to try to figure out how we're going to be three quarters of a family and keep dad connected. >> reporter: and eric's family is also settling for a situation that's not perfect but better than him sitting at home. six months after he graduated from the rebecca school, eric starts attending a dayhab in manhattan where he does