which was tied up for a year with the investigation and impeachment. so for the next hour in partnership with "time" magazine, we'll take a look at what makes wealthy powerful men who seem to have it all risk everything for adulterous sex. the latest revelations were bombshells, first a criminal accusation against the head of the international monetary fund by a hotel housekeeper. dominique strauss-kahn has since resigned his post and is out of jail on monday but even before the ink was dry on that headline, former california governor arnold schwarzenegger publicly admitted fathering a child with his family's housekeeper over a decade ago. and as cnn's tom foreman explains, these two men both very wealthy and politically connected, are simply the latest in a crowded rogue's gallery of cheaters. >> reporter: the former california governor has plenty of company. >> i did not have sexual relations with that woman. >> reporter: ever since president clinton was caught fooling around 13 years ago, internet rumors, cameras everywhere, and the public appetite for dirt have outed dozens of public figures for indiscretions. among republicans such scandals have had particular impact. former house speaker now presidential contender newt gingrich led the charge against clinton but twice had affairs of his own. david vitter and senator john ensign likewise have defended conservative family values but vitter was linked to prostitutes and ensign cheated on his wife. when the governor of south carolina, mark sanford, was found with his argentine mistress not on the appalachian trail -- >> i have been unfaithful to my wife. >> his wife suggested he take a hike. >> and i frankly didn't know where he was. >> and it's not as if republicans have cornered the market on indiscretion. >> because i did not want the public to fe what i had done. >> former vice presidential candidate john edwards talked to nightline about his affair with this woman, rielle hunter. she claimed they had a love child, something at first edwards denied. >> when you were running for president you flat out denied having a relationship with rielle hunter. did you give me a truthful answer? were you telling the truth then? >> yes. >> he later came clean and his wife elizabeth now deceased, left him and took their kids with her. other democrats, former new york governor now cnn host eliot spitzer paid for escorts. former new jersey governor jim mcgreevey cheated with another man. but it's not just politics. in sports quarterbacks brett favre and ben roethlisberger were accused of but never charged with misconduct. tiger woods went into the rough over extramarital playing partners. >> i was unfaithful. i had affairs. >> and in entertainment scandals have enveloped david letterman, hue grant, george michael, and jesse james just to name a few. so the former california governor can take consolation knowing as a politician, an athle athlete, and an entertainer he is not alone but then when you think about it, that was the whole problem. tom foreman, cnn, washington. >> sex, lies, arrogance, it's just a headline on the "time" magazine cover. it also reads what makes powerful men act like pigs. we put that question to the author of the feature story executive editor nancy gibbs. >> it is not all men by any means but what we have found through history is that with opportunity seems to come an inclination to act on it and the more wealthy and powerful and famous and accomplished men are, the more opportunity they have to misbehave. what some social scientists have suggested is that the ordinary men who don't have an opportunity develop the muscles of monogamy, of self-restraint and delayed gratification, but if over time you all this opportunity, all of these women, then those muscles weaken and you end up with men whose success often also makes them feel entitled to take whatever they want and there's -- if it's available, then they are inclined to take it. >> how do you go from being a man in power, being a business person, to being confident, to entitlement and narcissism. what other way is there of putting it? >> well, you wonder which comes first? is it the narcissist who has a high opinion of themselves or that is an advantage in becoming successful or does the success make you think that the world should revolve around you? maybe that there's a little bit of both, but what we find happening, and this happens with celebrities in sports and entertainment as well as in politics, is that if you're surrounded by people telling how special you are and who have a personal or a political interest in your success and therefore might be inclined to cover up when you misbehave, that does create yet another set of circumstances for you to take advantage of situations where good judge would say that you shouldn't. >> is it the thrill of getting away with it, nancy, like, yes? >> for some men there is an element of that, of the excitement that comes with feeling like they are special and the rules don't apply with them, and the more often they turn out to be right, the more often that they're going to cross that line again. >> so why are we having this conversation? it's because of two men, dominique strauss-kahn, the now former head of the international monetary fund charged this week with sexual assault and former california governor arnold schwarzenegger who admitted he fathered a child over a decade ago with a housekeeper. two 34emen with cases that will yield different results. also gail haggard the wife of ted haggard. he preached against cheating, then admitted to having a relationship with a man. gail haggard is here live to explain why she has stood by her husband. and the big question for many wives and partners, especially after the news of this week, how do you keep your man from cheating on you? we have some advice. and if you have any questions or comments, write to us. you can reap out to us on twitter, on facebook, on cnn. m cnn.com/don. lding up our wireles network all across america. we're adding new cell sites... increasing network capacity, and investing billions of dollars to improve your wireless network experience. from a single phone call to the most advanced data download, we're covering more people in more places than ever before in an effort to give you the best network possible. at&t. rethink possible. 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apartment, out on bail after allegedly trying to rape a hotel maid. our susan candiotti walks us through his scandalous past week. >> reporter: it was friday the 13th, the day before the alleged assault, when dominique strauss-kahn checked into a luxury hotel in midtown manhattan, the sofitel. the head of the international monetary fund was looking for company. within minutes of checking into suite 2806, he called the front desk and invited the female receptionist to join him for a drink. she declined. fast forward to the next day, around noon, a source tells cnn a male service attendant entered his room to retrieve service items. minutes later a 32-year-old maid noticed the door was ajar and entered the room to clean. the attendant then left. inside 62-year-old strauss-kahn allegedly was naked in the bedroom and grabbed at the maid chating her through the suite. kahn chased her through the suite and forced himself on her. >> he forcibly raped her. when he was unsuccessful he forced her to perform oral sex on him. >> reporter: about a half hour later, police say strauss-kahn checked out of the hotel. prosecutors contend he was rushing here to jfk airport for a flight to paris. the defense claims he was in a hurry to meet his daughter for lunch before heading here to the airport for a prebooked flight. soon after the alleged attack, the maid was reporting the incident to hotel staff. around 1:30 in the afternoon, the police were called. no one knew of strauss-kahn's whereabouts until he called the hotel from the airport look him to look for his lost cell phone, a move the defense says proves he's innocent and was not fleeing the country. on monday, a dishevelled strauss-kahn appeared in court where he was charged with an array of charges that could put him behind bars for up to 25 years. he was sent to rikers island jail. wednesday he resigned as imf chief. in a brief letter to the board he proclaimed his innocence saying, quote, to all i want to say that i deny with the greatest possible firmness all of the allegations that have been made against me. in court thursday, supported by his wife and daughter, a clean cut strauss-kahn was granted some freedom. >> i have decided that i will grant a bail. >> reporter: after being rejected by another apartment because of a media crush, strauss-kahn is now living here in lower manhattan until he moves again next week with the media in tow. he's under a court ordered 24-hour watch. his next court appearance, june 6. susan candiotti, cnn, new york. >> in "time" magazine's feature article called sex, lies, arrogance executive editor nancy gibbs points out that in all of the powerful men involved in recent scandals the allegations on dominique strauss-kahn are on a whole different level. not a cheater or liar, he's accused of being a predator. she talked with me about new accusations made by a journalist. >> well, after this news broke, another woman came forward in france, talking about how when she went to interview him, when she was in her early 20s, she was a journalist, she was actually god daughter to his second wife, that that interview turned into an attack, that he initially was holding her hand, and then he -- but he ended up trying to rip her clothes off, trying to take her pants off, undoing her bra and her on the floor kicking him. she describes it as a violent attack. and at the time, this was in 2002, she never pressed any charges so the case was never investigated. her mother admitted to talking her out of it. and the reason was partly this was a very powerful man, and the fear was that if this daughter came forward to accuse him, that people wouldn't believe her, that it would end up ruining her life. and so, you know, now all these years later, with the accusation of this episode in the hotel room, she has come forward. you know, the cynical view is women now come forward in order to cash in and the less cynical view is women now come forward because there is a chance they think their stories will be believed. >> dominique strauss-kahn was expected by many to become the next president of france. that likely won't happen now. ahead this hour, how the case is playing out across the atlantic, it's not the same as what you're seeing here, definitely. but first, arnold schwarzenegger, how a 13-year-old secret about fathering a child with his housekeeper was finally revealed. ion of two of our most tempting selections from favorites to new creations for just $11.99 during the festival of shrimp. ending soon at red lobster. we both love each other very much and we're very fortunate to have four extraordinary children, and we're taking one day at a time. >> that was arnold schwarzenegger talking about his separation from his wife maria shriver just days before the jaw dropping revelation that he fathered a son with his family housekeeper. it's something he has hid from the world for 13 years now. imagine that. our thelma gz gutierrez looks at how the secret came after so many years. >> reporter: the lives of the former california governor, his wife and four children had been imploding in private when over the course of the week the skrandal surrounding the other woman and their love child exploded in the media. it began on may 9 with the surprising announcement that the couple was separating after 25 years of marriage. >> we both love each other very much, we are very fortunate that we have four extraordinary children. >> reporter: then a week later a bombshell. schwarzenegger releases a statement confirming a los angeles times story that he had an extramarital affair and a child with a member of his household staff. and the next day, we learned who she is. the "new york times" identifies the woman as 50-year-old mildred baena, who had worked in the schwarzenegger home as a housekeeper for 20 years. the child's birth certificate obtained by cnn shows the baby, a boy, was born in 1997, just days after maria shriver gave birth to her youngest son. the man who was named on the document showed her then-husband as the father. she did have two older children from a previous marriage, her daughter jacqueline rosa has come to her defense. >> mom's a great woman. >> reporter: in january she retired from her job with the schwarzeneggers to an upscale home very purchased in bakers field, california, 100 miles away from the brentwood mansion where she worked. >> she has kept a low profile according to neighbors. they also describe her son as going to a local middle school and they say that he's very polite, incredibly bright, and well-liked in the neighborhood. >> the son is a wonderful, very respectful, very intelligent young man. he's got great manners. >> reporter: ever since the scandal broke, the teenager has not been seen at school. neighbors say neither the boy nor his mother have returned home. as for schwarzenegger, he was looking forward to returning to the big screen, he just announced three upcoming movie deals have been put on hold while he works on his personal life. while he was laying low away from the cameras, maria shriver has stepped out taking center stage with oprah during one of the final tapings of her show to a roaring applause in front of 20,000 people. thelma gutierrez, cnn, bakersfield, california. >> well, schwarzenegger has faced sex scandals before, accused of groping and other bad behavior against women when he campaigned to become governor of california. in her article "sex, lies, arrogance" nancy gibbs takes note of how maria shriver acting back in 2003 and how she's acted with this latest revelation. >> at the time maria shriver stood by him as a character witness, it was when more than a dozen women had accused him of this aggressive groping and harassing, and she said, i know him, take my word for it, he's a gentleman, he's a great guy. and that carried a lot of weight with voters. what's especially tragic and poignant this week is that when he told her all this time he had a son that he had had with this housekeeper, she was not prepared to stand by that and she moved out. so we have no way of knowing what she would have done if she had known the truth back when she was defending him. >> okay. so we know many of the details, but none of them seem to answer the burning question, and that's why, what makes men rise so high fall for one of the most primitive desires, and that's sex? our resident human behavior expert dr. wendy walsh joins us and you're the author of "the boyfriend guide." why do you think this keeps happening to powerful men? >> these are like the star hunters from our past. they brought back the woolly mammoth for the whole village which gave them access to more females, right? today's hunters are the athletes, actors, the wall street power brokers. >> high profile. >> they're risk takers, they want a sense of entitlement, it's never too much for them. but what is the psychological underpinning? could there be a bit of narcissism? people think narcissism is i'm great, i deserve all this. the underbelly is actually a sense of self-loathing. trying to make up for what they don't deserve. >> there's a prime time drama based on this called "the god wife." why do these wives stand by their accused men? >> well, women love love. women define themselves through their relationships. and their relationship and their attachment and the security of their family is sometimes far more important than losing him physically. >> so why are they attracted to these bad boys? if they love love, maybe these men are not prone to that. >> there's certainly a chance they can have better opportunities with their children, more money, better education, everybody can eat better and live in nice houses, there's that piece of it, the gold digger if you will. but another piece is that bad boys are kind of a random interval reward system, they're like a slot machine in vegas, because you're hoping they do pay off and be a really good guy at some point. because when they do pay off in little dribs and drabs along the way, it's really nice. >> how many men cheat and is this really an instinct that we're fighting? >> here is the problem with studies on infidelity, they're mostly self-report studies so people lie a lot. people tend to lie about money and sex. one study i came up with that seems to be the most valid says that about 60% of married men are unfaithful at some point. >> so men in power, should they be examining themselves right now? and are they susceptible to this type of behavior? >> monogamy is more likely with men if they make an intellectual decision, an intellectual commitment to themselves to overcome their animal instinct. so the question is what kind of role model are these men. why are you laughing at me? >> i love talking to you and it's a great conversation. i want you to stick around. in 20 minutes we're going to talk about how a woman can stop a bad boy from playing her. >> exactly. there's signs she 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