york city to say their vows. new york passed its marriage equality act last month. a state set up a lottery to handle a crush of requests for marriages today. a live report from new york city in a few minutes. and six people shot dead at this skating rink near dallas, texas. a man opened fire during a family birthday party last night. he killed five members of his wife's family and then himself. four other people were hurt. also, family members. police say a fight between the man and his wife escalated until he began shooting. the king and queen of norway openly weeping led their nation in mourn ing. the 93 people killed in friday's bomb and shooting terror attacks. most of the victims were teenagers attending a summer camp. police say the man they have in custody has confessed. >> translator: there's no progress on the question of what the motive was for the bombing and the shootings. he has admitted and not made any changes to what he said. he insists that he was alone. police are still looking to verify what he has said. >> investigators are also combing a long manifesto written by the suspect to determine his motivations. reaction to the death of singer amy winehouse continues to pour in. an autopsy is set to begin tomorrow in london. already people are jumping to conclusions that the troubled singer died of a drug overdose. here's actor val kilmer who plays the doomed jim morrison in the movie "the door." >> the thing about addiction i learned from playing a bunch of these guys that are addicts is that it's not wrong or bad to want to get out of the pain of mortality. that's what we're trying to do. and a lot of artists are just too sensitive for the world. >> winehouse was found dead in her london apartment yesterday. police say it could be several days before they have results from that autopsy. all right. back in washington, d.c., it is crunch time as lawmakers rush to reach a debt deal today. house speaker john boehner is holding a conference call with house republicans in less than 30 minutes from now. cnn congressional correspondent kate bolduan is live on capitol hill. kate, boehner has been holding negotiations with lawmakers after walking away from talks with the president on friday over tax hikes. what can we expect to come out of this conference call? >> reporter: well, it seems at the very least speaker boehner and other house republican leaders are looking to update their republican members in the house on the status of negotiations. we know that talks are continuing today. we also know that yesterday speaker boehner, when he held a conference call yesterday with house members, he said -- he told members that he was pushing for a debt ceiling increase in two steps that would come -- that would equal some $3 trillion to $4 trillion in cuts. and that -- excuse me. and that two-step process seems to be key right now as both the administration as well as republican as well as democratic leaders have said they are opposed to any sort-term extension. if that means, fredricka, and this is key, if it means that the country would end up in a similar debt ceiling impasse in just a few months as we are really in this impasse right now, and that second step, how that is structured, seems to be key to democratic support right now. now, speaker boehner this morning on fox news, he said that a two-step process to raise the debt ceiling is inevitable and he said house republicans are ready to go it alone. listen here. >> i would prefer to have a bipartisan approach to solve this problem. if that's not possible, i and my republican colleagues in the house are prepared to move on our own. >> today? >> today. >> reporter: while boehner says that they're ready to move on their own today, it's not clear if whatever kind of a house republican go it alone plan would look like if it could pass the democratic controlled senate. so it's a bit of a waiting game right now in terms of where things go from here as negotiations continue behind closed doors, fredricka. >> kate, if they don't reach a deal by that deadline, what would be the consequences? >> reporter: politically speaking, it seems like there would be political consequences in that everyone up here as well as at the white house could be ready to face the blame. you can be sure that both sides would be pointing the finger at each other, that they would say the other is to blame for the fact that they couldn't reach an agreement. at this point they're not talking about the what ifs, really. everyone involved seems to be very much focused on trying to reach this agreement as many have said and we've confirmed, congressional leaders in the room are trying to reach an agreement before asian markets are opened this evening for the week. we've also heard they're working on unveiling something in order to get the legislative ball rolling come tomorrow, fredricka. >> kate bolduan, thanks so much. in new york city today hundred of same-sex couples were allowed to waive the standard 24-hour waiting period and get married right away. cnn's susan candiotti caught up with one of the lucky couples. >> reporter: they're the first male couple to say i do as cameras rolled at the city clerk's office. >> till death do us part. >> when i heard the words i just started to cry and i couldn't stop it at that point. >> freddy zambrano and marcus exchanged vows in front of a handful of witnesses. they met online, fell in love at first sight and have been fighting for same-sex marriage ever since. >> it's the moment we've been waiting for for years. >> it's a dream come true for us. a dream come true. to say this is my husband now as opposed to my boyfriend or my partner. >> reporter: becoming among the first same-sex couples to marry in new york, the significance hasn't escape them. or what they hope to proudly tell their children one day. >> i guess we'll be telling them when we were young, you know, there's no such thing as us being able to get married. we were part of that day. we were part of the people who were there when it did happen in new york, at least. >> reporter: they plan on saving the e-mail that told them they won a city hall lottery allowing them to marry this morning. >> as soon as i read this line, congratulations -- >> reporter: did you scream? >> i'm amazed you didn't hear me on the other end of the city. >> reporter: together, they supported the same-sex marriage movement. >> i have certain people in my life that they're not totally okay with it, but they accept it. and just the fact that they respect us because of that, it's really the most that i can ask for. >> reporter: they've already been wearing their rings for five years. >> we're just going to polish them up and exchange them again. because we weren't able to do so. >> with this ring. >> with this ring. >> i thee wed. >> i thee wed. >> reporter: but now they have something they did not have before. a wedding certificate with the words. >> we're married. >> susan is live for us outside of gracie mansion where a special ceremony is set to take place. susan, what's about to happen? >> reporter: that's right. for people who don't know gracie mansion is the official home of new york city's mayor. tonight a rare event for new york city mayor michael bloomberg because he is going to be officiate at the wedding of two staffers. his chief policy adviser and the -- okay. we've got someone who's joined us momentarily. thanks. he's walked away now. sorry about that. okay, susan. we'll get back with you. tha thanks so much. back to norway and the aftermath of friday's bomb and shooting attacks in norway. at least 93 people were killed. many of them teenagers. cnn's michael holmes is digging up more information. michael, are we learning anything more about the suspect? >> reporter: about the suspect, well, anders behring breivik, is going to be appearing in court tomorrow. his first appearance in court since the horrific event that took place on friday and of which he is accused. we're told by employees he's going to be pleading not guilty to the charges that he is facing. however, police say that he has confessed fully to what he did. why will that happen? well, because we understand he wants to get his message out which is, of course, a message of hatred and fear and rants against muslims. so he will be appearing in court. now, the other thing we're hearing is he has told police he did this on his own. there was suspicion initially in some of the witness statements leading police to think maybe someone else was involved. they have carried out raids. they have done more investigation. they have found no evidence to support any theory he did not act alone. he did, apparently. that's the latest on the suspect in this horrible, horrible case that has stunned this nation. fred? >> this was a very tough day with this sunday and the king and queen being at that ceremony tearfully. how has this community been able to kind of help support one another? >> reporter: yeah. it has. you're right. there was -- that was emotional. there was another one here, actually, as well at which the prince and princess attended. the king and queen were at the one in oslo. people are pulling together. this place that we're at here, this is a hotel that's been turned into a crisis center, welfare center if you like for the parents, the survivor. there have been dozens and dozens of people here over the past couple of day. many have returned home to begin the process of healing at home. there are still some here and even new arrivals coming for the grief counseling. we've seen the prime minister here. we've seen the prince and princess. we've seen five or six government ministers, the government really trying to gather around the families of the survivors and the victims to help them through this. inside there, fred, there are still four parents, four sets of parents awaiting news of their children. despite the dead that we know about, there are four still missing out there in the waters near this island. i was out there today and we saw half a dozen, eight boats out there looking over the edges of these boats essentially looking for bodies. these are the kids who are among those who jumped into the water to try to get away from breivik when he started shooting. four of them are still missing. i was out there because i was with a good samaritan, one of several, who went to the island when the shooting began and managed to get dozens of kids off the island. very brave stuck. this is while it was all unfolding. this man, casper, he told us several stories. this is what one girl said to him when he got her on the boat. have a listen, fred. >> the girl starts crying. she looked at me and said are you police? i said, no, i'm just a local resident. she got a little relief by that. she looked at me and said, you know, it was a policeman with a uniform with a bald head who started shooting us. >> this was breivik who went dressed as a policeman when he got on to the island and called the kids together and started shooting. casper did an amazing job. he got 25 or 30 kids off in three trips which is extraordinary on that small boat. he said one of the more emotional moments was when he looked over on one of the trips and saw three kids huddled together. he yelled out to them. he said they didn't respond. he said i'll get back to them later. he took other kids off, went back again and realized those three kids on that shoreline were dead. fred? >> terribly sad. thanks so much. michael holmes for that report. all right. back in this country, there's a major civil war re-enactment taking place this weekend. it's about more than history. we'll tell you how it's paying off for a virginia city. ♪ with diabetes, it's tough to keep life balanced. i don't always have time to eat like i should. and the more i focus on everything else, the less time i have to take care of me. that's why i like glucerna shakes. they have slowly digestible carbs to help minimize blood sugar spikes, which can help lower a1c. glucerna products help me keep everything balanced. 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>> for so many people it's a few things. you really need to make sure you do what you can do. there's times when there's ageism. if that's the case, you want to take the right precautions, go to the right people. other times it's about your own attitude. i think it's really, really important for people, number one, to be sure that they are not focused on what the other person is doing, not focused on the age, but instead focused on the position. i think even if we look at our culture, a lot of times we tear down our leader. so just focus on the position, not the age. make sure you're respecting that position. >> somehow you need to find some real common ground. >> yeah. >> you all are in it, you know, together. >> that's right. >> you're hopefully moving towards the same goal. maybe of that business. >> yeah. i think it's easy to just focus on age. you're more than a number. it's really important to say, you know what? what are the strengths? what are some likes and dislikes, things we can come together around, working on a project together, and focus on those more than you're focusing on the fact the person is younger than you are. >> see the position, not the age and learn from the past. don't get stuck in that. >> don't get stuck in it. if you've been in the job for a pretty long time, there are things you've seen. perhaps there are changes that have been made. ten years ago we did this. 20 years ago we did that. make sure you don't get stuck in the past. learn from it. you've got a lot of wisdom to share, but be willing to change. for a lot of older workers they're afraid maybe they're not going to learn the new technology well. take that extra step to learn what you need to learn to change with the times. >> interesting you say don't look to your job for appreciation. what do you mean? some folks are looking for that instant gratification by the work that they do? >> yes. the viewers that talked about this frustration with the generations, someone being younger, a lot of times we're talking about not feeling appreciated. it's smart for a boss to appreciate your people. you get a lot more productivity. >> at least say you're doing a great job, that kind of stuff, encourage them? >> to be encouraging. however, you cannot expect that at work. expect the job. expect to have a decent income. expect to be treated with respect and whatever benefits you were promised gl don't look for a pat on the back, you're doing a great job, thank you. >> do your work but don't look for the appreciation network. >> refuse to judge. meaning refusing to judge, you know, boss that's younger than you, trying to compare the whole life experience, how is it you can be my boss and, you know, i could change your diaper back in the day, that kind of thing? >> you don't want to be judged for being older. don't judge the other person for being younger then assume they can't do the job. you want to make sure you're not judging other people. treat others the way you want to be treated. >> be friendly. >> so simple. smile at people. say hello. be helpful. those things break down and transcend age. it's really important to just do the simple things. a smile can go a long way. >> we laugh but this really is a big issue in many offices. you know, work environments. >> you've got baby boomers, people older than that, generation x, y. everybody together. everybody's